1708guilt trip from M V
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evileOct. 20, 2003
got a phone message from M V [X's dad] sometime this weekend, I think maybe
Saturday evening while we were at the movies or Sunday while we were
shopping for Sweetie's work clothes.
Anyway, it was him saying "Thank you for all your help" and "Thank
you for helping C [my wife] during the troubles a couple weeks ago"...very
polite, no snippy tone, but definitely not the tone M V usually
uses.
So, I guess(?) it's a guilt trip, meant to make me feel bad about not
doing anything for/with the kids while Xtal was incarcerated and C
was overrun with rugrats.
Well...I am sorry as hell for the kids, and I feel like shit for not
being able to be there for them.
But...that week we had other things going on, that weekend Elaine was
in ICU...and I just wasn't up to handling anything else.
Plus, Xtal and I hadn't been friends or even spoken to each other
for over 6 months at that point. I have been *more* than generous
with my time, energy, and money with the [X family] and their children
in the past.
But...M V needed somebody to vent at, or be mad at, and it doesn't
really do me any more damage for him to be mad at me or blame me for
whatever. It's totally irrational, but I can understand. And while it
hurts my feelings, it isn't actually doing anything negative to me to
let him be mad at me or blame me for whatever.
Even though this was ALL M and X's fault. Nothing
from me.
Oh well.
1709 Re: guilt trip from mike V
Date: 2023-08-22 10:29 pm (UTC)Oct. 21, 2003
J-Laws thoughts:
Date: Mon, 20 Oct 2003 16:43:05 -0700 (PDT)
Subject: Re: dammit
Weird.
Could be he was still kind of reeling/stupefied/unsettled about all
of this and couldn't manage his usual, less formal tone?
But you know him better than I do.... so....
Definitely wise not to get into a situation where he could mix it up
with you, if that's what he's after. Sounds like you have a good
perspective on his thing vs. your thing - just because he might need
to vent/blame/resent or whatever doesn't mean you have to return the
serve.