3749Re: the end of me and [Cousin B] being close/me to J-Law

[evile]

7 Nov. 1:44 pm

 

OMFG, I just had the most *brilliant* thought!!!

[Cousin B] is getting a car for his bday in Dec. For whatever reasons
(insurance? paperwork hassle?) they're going to wait until he's 18 to
get his learners permit too.

So what if I was the cool cousin and took him to a big parking lot to
practice driving, but insisted that he be sober (ie: not having smoked
pot recently) in order to drive?

Good incentive, eh? I'm so good.

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3751 Re: the end of me and [Cousin B] being close/me to J-Law

[evile]

7 Nov. 2:47 pm


J-Law:

I love your plan re: [Cousin B]'s driving lessons. Perfect!

This is very selfish, but I am sorry for all the goddamned mishegoss
as well. I have tons of shit going on, it is very stressful, and
this is about the very last thing I need added to my list. I hate
saying this and feeling this way but hey. It's true. If my mom
didn't need me (Rick can't get time off, a fact which no one
questions), I wouldn't even consider going.

Shane's staying home with Pepper. I was torn between wanting him
close by and wanting someone to come home to. If that makes sense.
And it will be a huge relief to me that someone reliable is home with
her.

I don't get UB's issue at all. If it were Shane, I'd take off as
much time as it took. I'd wait at the hospital. WTF?

But you're right - it's not you're battle. All you can do is be
there.
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me:

Yeah...it's especially hard when there's nothing you
can really DO, just worry and be upset.

I think it's very sweet of Shane to want to be your
'home base'. & definitely one less thing for you to
worry about if he's staying with Pepper. That gives
him something concrete to do, other than just stand
around and help you worry. I would tend to prefer a
task rather than just a 'moral support' kind of role,
in the same position.

I just really don't think UB thinks of sineater as a
person, certainly not as her equal partner in life,
she thinks of him as a possession, a 'resource' [I've
heard her use this term in relation to him, as one of
the arguments against him having a poly relationship,
the other person taking sineater's time, therefore one of
UB's 'resources' away from her] and this is about as
inconvenient as leaving her car in the shop for a
day...it's sick and I can't hardly get my brain around
it, but I can't think of any other reason for her to
treat him so poorly. She just has no empathy
whatsoever.

I sent email to [G/ dad], in case he didn't know sineater was
going to surgery on Wednesday,and [G/ dad] said he'd call
sineater 'right now'...I just want sineater to know that
people love him, that he isn't alone in the world,
that it isn't him and 'skye_ds' against everyone else. I
think she's orchestrated something (don't know what)
to make it look like I'm against him, that I've
stabbed him in the back, that I don't care about him,
he's all alone and can't trust anyone in the world.

He is not alone. He is loved. He has people in the
world who would move heaven and earth if he just
asked. And I can't seem to get him to understand that,
so maybe [G/ dad] can.

*sigh*