3745Re: the end of me and [Cousin B] being close/me & J-Law

[evile]

 

 

7 Nov. 10:34 am

 

E wrote:

> How was your weekend?
>
> I had a dream/nightmare about getting married Friday
> night. I even had a date--June 16. I was talking
> with
> Tina about putting these little horrible
> plastic-glittery-gauzey red and blue rosette things
> in
> my hair. Horrible.
>
> I recolored my hair Friday evening, so maybe that
> triggered it.
>
> Saturday [Cousin B] and I had a tiff. I shared my concerns
> that I didn't think he was learning anything by
> being
> suspended 1.5 days, getting presents and concert
> tickets, being allowed to go out with friends the
> same
> weekend of the occurrence, and to top it off, his
> classmates treated him like a returning hero (his
> words) when he came back from his suspension. I told
> him I didn't want him to become a worthless brat
> like
> others in our family I could name. He told me I was
> being condescending, and I was NEVER to use the
> words
> "hope you learned your lesson" and that whether or
> not
> he became a brat was his business and his problem.
> His tone of voice and choice of words were so [brother A]
> it
> was chilling and heartbreaking. And then he turned
> me
> down flat for a concert that evening, the celtic
> festival that afternoon, and even brunch/lunch after
> class--and he's ALWAYS hungry after class.
>
> Krav class sucked, too. I was too weak and clumsy to
> keep up with the class so the instructor kept coming
> over and showing me different ways to do stuff. It
> was
> humiliating.
>
> BUT, I went to the celtic festival and saw my
> friends
> who had booths there, heard some great music, had a
> Harp, wandered around and people-watched, so the
> weekend wasn't a complete loss.
>
> *sigh* Just mostly.
>
> ANYWAY, I hope you had a nice, calm, relaxing
> sweetie-weekend.
>
> Love ya, babe.
>
>

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--- J-Law wrote:

*hugs*

I am sorry about your weekend; I am glad you rescued
it a bit, though. The Celtic fair sounds fun.

I think [Cousin B] will come around. You two are very
close, and it seems like he does trust and admire
you. This might just be a little rebellion thing he
had to get out of his system, and things will go
back to normal in a few days. Maybe let things
cool off this week, and touch base casually on
Friday or over the weekend?

Weird dream! I can't believe you are having wedding
nightmares, too!!!!!!!!

Our weekend was pretty good. Very quiet and low
key. It was nice doing nothing for a change. :)
Unfortunately, I slept badly last night and today is
shaping up to be crazy. On top of the work stuff, I
have to go in for an eye exam today. My last pair
of contacts ripped on Friday and I need new ones in
time for our Napa trip next Saturday. The last
thing I need right now is a big expense, but it has
to be done.... and I can't go to Napa in dorky
glasses. I look like a total spack right now. :)

We watched a buncha movies - if you haven't seen it
already, get Ghost World (2001) with Scarlett
Johansson and Thora Birch. Not a happy movie, but
it has some absolutely hilarious moments, and
excellent acting from everyone.

Oh, I got the recipe thing in the mail - thank
you!!! I am going to try to come up with one for
Thanksgiving. I will let you know how it goes.

LOVE YOU!!!

J-Law


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I was just really...stunned...by how much [Cousin B] hurt my feelings, and
that 'channeling [brother A]' thing just...whoa.

Unfo, we have Krav Maga classes scheduled all week, so we have to
spend time whether we're mad at each other or not...really, I am not
mad, just hurt and worried. And I'm sure, intellectually, that he
struck out at me so hard because I really hurt him, too. *sigh*

Please shoot me if I ever decide to put red and blue plastic rosettes
in my hair for a wedding. SO TACKY. I am still shuddering from that
dream.

I'm glad you had a good weeknd, sounds like you needed it.

At least being crazy busy at work will help the time pass. :)

Love ya!

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[evile]

3747Re: the end of me and [Cousin B] being close/me & J-Law



E
7 Nov. 12:11 pm


--- J-Law wrote:

I am sure. I can almost picture that moment of
complete and utter shock. You're right - if [Cousin B]
struck back like that, it's probably because he is
hurting, too. Hopefully, you both will find ways to
keep things low-key until you can talk about it.

I would hate to do it, but yeah. The rosettes might
warrant shooting. ;)

On top of just regular crazy, I got an email from my
mom. Auntie Robyn says my Grandpa is worse than
ever, and might not.... make it much longer. She
wants to fly us all down for Christmas to spend the
holiday and to see him.

My mom has some misgivings about it, which I agree
with and even added my own; we're thinking of
driving down sooner, possibly as early as the
weekend of the 19th (my dad's birthday; just get all
the angst out in one go).

We still don't have any news about Shane's
Grandma....

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me:

*hugs* I'm sorry that your grandpa is having such health
troubles...what IS it about the holidays? Seems like everyone gets
sick around Thanksgiving/Xmas. This is such a tough time of year, and
we have to slap big ol' stupid smiles on our faces and do all this
family togetherness & holiday cheer despite all the crap.

I hope that 'no news is good news' as far as Shane's grandmother goes.

Sweetie's mom is going in for some kind of procedure soon and Sweetie is
being very butt-headed about it. She called yesterday morning and
left a msg. on the machine, while he was asleep. I tried to get him
to wake up and answer it, or wake up and call her back, but he never
did. I guess that's his coping mechanism. I don't want to rub his
nose in it, but his mom is just over 60 and has had some serious
health problems...I would just hate it if something happened and he
hadn't talked to her. *sigh* Not my fight.

Lots of things are not my fight...I just have to let them go and be
here to comfort people when their choices come back to bite 'em in
the ass.

More fun: sineater's going in for surgery Wednesday at 5 am and UB is of
course going to let him recover in her office because she doesn't
want to miss any work for him. He's not speaking to me, but I told
her I would take a sick day and drive him to my house to sleep in the
guest room if he asked me to.

*sigh* perspective. Things can always get worse, so quitcherbitchen.
*sigh*