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Why do we need to 'accept' fat people instead of telling them they should stop eating junk food and go to the gym? Isn't that in their best interest?

What does another person’s body or health have to do with you? At all? Do you go up to brown people and tell them to ‘just be white’ and no one will bother them? Do you go up to young women and tell them to just grow a penis so that they won’t be raped and sexually harassed? Do you approach old people hobbling along with a cane and tell them to quit being old so they can stop being so decrepit? Do you approach blondes and tell them to dye their hair brown? Do you walk up to short people and exhort them to become tall? Do you walk up to people attending a church you do not attend and scream at them that they are going to suffer eternally for their wrong beliefs? Do you stand outside voting locations and yell at everyone that they should vote the same way you did? NO? Then mind your own business when you see fat people. They aren’t harming you. Leave them alone.

Obesity is widespread and epidemic in our country. There are many theories as to the reason for that, ranging from industrial agricultural practices to fast food to poverty to the addition of preservatives and high fructose corn syrup to almost every prepackaged item you can buy. It is a problem. And I guarantee you that every single fat person you meet knows they are fat and knows that others see them as having a problem. If they can’t hate themselves into thin-ness, if the dozens of friends, family members, coworkers,and bosses who commented on their weight didn’t change their habits, why on EARTH do you think that your piling your own hate on top of that is going to finally be the magic word they need to hear to finally do the right thing? You don’t know every fat person’s story. You don’t know what they eat or don’t eat. You don’t know their fitness habits! And you can’t tell by looking at a person what their blood pressure, blood sugar, and cholesterol levels may be. There are more than likely fat people walking around who have better health markers than you do.

Finally, when you see a fat person out in the world, you don’t know whether their weight is on the way up or on the way down. Would you really want to break someone’s heart by saying “you’re fat, go to the gym and stop eating junk food” when it turns out that person used to weigh much more than they do currently and have been working very hard and were proud of themselves & having a nice day before you opened your mean ugly mouth?

Mind your own business. Go to the gym your own self. Eat whatever you think is healthy for you and stop being crappy to other people. Acceptance doesn’t mean you have to love someone, or tell them they’re attractive and gorgeous, or sleep with them. It just means you leave them alone and let them live their life without being hateful and ugly to them. If you can accept old people, ugly people, stupid people, and people who don’t share your religious or political beliefs, then you can accept fat people. Stop making assumptions about people’s health by looking at them.

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