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What should I do if I just found out my narcissist has cheated and lied for some good time and has been having different personalities, listens to others, manipulates me, and plays mind games?

First, most important: do not confront the narcissist. Do not speak to them about what you've found out. That just gives them an opportunity to gaslight and DARVO you, shut down your finances, deprive you of your home or transportation, or possibly even harm you physically.

Gather your important papers: ID, birth certificate, passport, bank records, etc. Make sure your bank account, credit cards, etc. are secure and the narc cannot access them. Lock down social media. Get a new phone and new phone number that the narcissist does not know. Find a safe place to live that the narc will not know about. LEAVE. And do not speak to or contact the narcissist ever again.

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