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evile
I think it is a natural and normal part of healing from a narcissistic relationship to, at least briefly, 'bash' ones ex. It can be problematic if this bashing goes on for a long time, and certainly can do harm to oneself to focus too much on the story of the bad relationship, or allow yourself to become bitter, hateful, and cruel as a result of a bad relationship.
I do not feel that my posts here ‘bash’ narcissists, I describe their abusive behavior. If a person does not wish to be described in negative terms, they should not behave abusively toward others.
I understand that narcissists are defective human beings, either through a birth defect or brain damage or a childhood experience, and it is not their fault that they were born into an abusive family, or born with deficient brains or faulty body chemistry that leaves them without the capacity to be fully human. It is truly a tragedy for everyone concerned--the narcissist and all of the people who love them and try to help them, who are in turn used, abused, and harmed by the narcissist.
But that does not mean that I wish to allow myself to be abused and mistreated by someone, any more than I would care to expose myself to being bitten by a rabid dog. Describing the narcissists abusive, malignant behavior is not an ‘attack’ it is a factual reportage of what to expect if you allow a narcissist in your life. It is not a rabid dog’s fault that it caught rabies. It is not a rat’s fault that it carries diseases. I choose to use my abilities of discernment to avoid rabid dogs and eject rats from my home. That’s all. No hate. No bashing. Just protecting myself, my life, my health, and my home.=====================
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