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"Some people will never like you because your spirit irritates their inner demons." Denzel Washington I really understand how this saying would apply to a narcissist. Out of curiosity does anyone else understand this the same way I do?

It’s true, in the sense that the Narcissist is a very jealous, insecure, and envious person. They will always want to take what others have, and if they can’t have it, they will destroy it so that no one can have it (peace, for example)

On the other hand, I think there is a lot of peace to be gained when we can stop thinking so much about why other people did this or that, and stop analyzing others so much.

At the end of the day, you don’t really need to understand why someone treated you badly, or why someone is so unpleasant to everyone, or why someone is so unhappy that they have to tear down other people to make themselves feel better—it is best to observe the behavior without internalizing any of it or taking any of it personally, recognize that you don’t want people who act like that in your life, and use that discernment to move along peacefully.

If you do anything other than peacefully pass it by, the narcissist will try their best to stick you with his or her problems (demons) via projection [1] . Their presence in your life is like someone trying to hand you a big old handful of horse poo. You don’t need to accept it. And if you find that you have accidentally engaged with such a person and find yourself holding the handful of poo, you have every right to drop the unwelcome burden of the narcissist’s projections, walk away, and clean yourself up.

Footnotes

[1] Projection

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