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Thanks for asking. Of course narcissists are human beings. And so are the victims/targets of the narcissists. Which seems to be a fact that narcissists overlook in their efforts to escape consequences from their behavior, and to be seen as the innocent victims in any situation that has gone bad.

I’m sorry if you feel unfairly judged by people for your narcissistic personality disorder. If you care to work on your behavior and learn and grow, there is therapy, there is clergy, there is counseling, and there are mindfulness exercises you can practice in order to modify your behavior and learn to at least mimic ethical, kind, compassionate and considerate behavior.

So many people, not just narcissists but also people with BPD, or drug and alcohol addictions, will try to use their disorder, illness or addiction as an excuse to behave badly, treat people poorly, and escape personal responsibility and consequences for their actions.

When you feel that you are being ‘judged,’ it may simply be that your target, or potential target, has actually exercised discernment[1] and decided that, based on your own words and behavior, that you are not a person they wish to know or have in their lives.

You are not entitled to anyone else’s time, attention, energy, resources, or finances. If a person has decided that you are toxic to them and they do not wish to be around you, that’s it. You don’t get to tell other people when they feel victimized or violated by your behavior. You don’t get to tell other people that they have no right to feel the way that they feel.

When someone rejects you, allow that rejection to guide you to examine yourself and work on becoming a better friend, partner, employee, or lover the next time someone offers you an opportunity to be a part of their life. Take the lesson and move on. (The lesson may, in fact, be “that person is a judgemental jerk, their opinion is garbage,” but always look for the possible validity in someone else’s perceptions of you that aren’t complimentary and use them as an opportunity to self-examine and improve yourself.)

Footnotes

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Discernment vs. Judgement

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