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How do you learn to put up with a narcissist, even when the way they treat you is so unfair because you are really the only help they have?

You should not put up with any abusive treatment, from anyone, under any circumstances.

You may want to go ‘gray rock’ or low contact as much as possible until you can safely leave the relationship.

Get as far away from an abusive person as quickly as you can.

You may feel stuck because you are ‘the only help they have’ and somehow feel obligated to help them, due to your own unhealed codependent tendencies, or because you feel pity for them or guilt about leaving them ‘alone’

The narcissist (abuser) will find someone else to be ‘the only help they have' very soon. They will land on their feet and find a new person or new people to drain and use.

The important thing is not to keep the abuser safe and happy—the important thing is for YOU to be safe and happy, WITHOUT the narcissist abuser. Get help on building your own self-esteem and establishing healthy and safe boundaries for yourself. You did not Cause their disorder, you can't Cure their disorder, you can't Control their disorder. It's not your problem or your responsibility.

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