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Is it common that narcissists overestimate the control they have over you? I have started to suspect I might be sending signals I am under their control but in reality, I am not.

Engaging with a narcissist at all, in any way, is giving them what they want. If you do what they want, that is a temporary happiness for them. If you refuse, they will thrive off the power struggle, and they know a lot more dirty tricks than you do that will give them an advantage.

The only way to win is not to play.

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