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The narcissist likes to know that s/he has hurt you. The narcissist likes to know that you are suffering as a result of something the narcissist did or said to you. The narcissist likes to see you angry, ashamed, in pain, crying, screaming, yelling, rolled up in a ball on the bathroom floor because you just can’t function anymore. Seeing you falling apart makes the narcissist feel strong, smart, and in control.

Does that sound like a fun thing for you to do to try and feed a monster? I think maybe there are some better things you could do with your time and energy, like taking care of your own self-esteem so that you don’t spend any more of your life trying to please someone who enjoys watching you bleed.

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