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If you have a big fight with a boss having NPD, due to calling her out on long-term inappropriate behaviour (intimacy issues), and just stay no-contact after being fired, also showing forgiveness for what happened, will she ever stop hating you?

No, a narcissist will never stop hating you. Hate is their default mode. Under every other emotion and behavior in the narcissist’s tool box, is hate. They hate other people for having what they don’t have, they hate other people for not giving them enough time, attention, gifts, resources that they feel they ‘deserve,’ they hate the people who DO give them time, energy, and gifts because they know they are tricking and fooling the person into caring about them, so their contempt turns to hate. And, truly, underneath it all, they hate themselves.

There is nothing you can do, say, or give to a narcissist that will ever make them happy, content, joyful, or grateful. Hate is all they are and all they have inside them. Best for you to stay no-contact and get on with your healing and forming new associations with people who are not hateful and crazy.

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