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What happens in a narc mind if you spot him and boost his ego with admiration and then you disappear without a trace?

Inside the Narcissist’s mind, it is always ‘The Great and Wonderful ME! Show’ all the time, 24/7/365. They are always putting on a show for their fans, signing autographs, smiling for the camera—the narcissist’s life is a never-ending parade of admirers.

And, like any celebrity (remember: this is inside their own minds), the smiling face of one admiring fan is just the same as any other’s. If you disappear, there are dozens more fans in line for an autograph, for their photo op, and their 5 minutes of the Narc’s attention.

You, as an individual, as a person, as a human with feelings and needs of your own, do not matter to the narcissist. You do not exist as a person in his or her mind. You were just an audience member for their show. And the next sold-out show, with another room full of admiring, applauding fans, is always about to start.

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