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I’m afraid Narcissists don’t see other people as human, so they won’t recognize strength in a person who resists their charms, or leaves them. In my experience, you will either cease to exist or you will become the villain in their sad story that they tell to try and hook in the next source of supply.

Narcissists only recognize other people as potential tools, or potential threats. Once they’ve placed you in the ‘threat’ category, or you have placed yourself in that category by leaving them, they’ll try to erase you from their existence, and if they can’t do that (say, because you are a family member or coworker) they will seek to discredit you with others, via a smear campaign of gossip, rumors, lies, or outlandish stories built upon one small nugget of truth so as to make it believable.

The NPD will never see your strength or respect you as a person. The best revenge is to live a good life, far away from the narcissist, and never think of them again. Be sure that once they can’t use you, they won’t think of you again, either.

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