2180Me & J re: e. & onyxlynxx
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May 6, 2004
--- J-Law wrote:
Sweet! I am very ready as well. I wanted to be
outta here days ago.... but it's been nice to be
here and slacking, then go on vacay, come back and
slack some more. :)
I've heard nothing but good things about JetBlue,
so I am actually looking forward to the flight. And,
I am planning to pack a lunch in case I get hungry
for real food. I am going a la francais: ham and brie
on baguette and fruit. I figure that would
withstand the rigors of travel.
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me:
evilE wrote:
I just got done with a Peter Mayle fiction
book--_Chasing Cezanne_. It was very cute & fun,
made me want to TRAVEL! And eat French food... *sigh*
There's a scene where two of the characters are
getting ready to fly from Paris to NY and they can't
face the thought of airplane food, so they stop in a
market and buy wine, baguette, etc. and when they
get onboard, one of the characters instructs the
stewardess on how to care for & serve the wine
(something like "It should be gently chilled, not
shocked"). It's hilarious! Totally reminded me of
you and your Jet Blue picnic :) That's a great idea, though. I would
have never thought of it. I may have to pop by Whole Foods or
Central Market the day I leave so that I don't have to face peanuts
in the air and dry bagels in the airport... :P
I went to poly dinner last night & it was fun. Found
out that a gal I'm starting to befriend was one of
skye_ds's classmates at UT. Amazingly, this girl
remembers 'Andie' fondly and wants me to put them
back in touch. Well, okaaaay...
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--- J-Law wrote:
I LOVE Chasing Cezanne. One of my favorite books.
I love Cyrus Pine - he is so hilarious and cute. I
was thinking of that very scene when I was planning
my inflight repast. :)
Interesting about UB's classmate. Fond memories of
"Andie." Chuh.
Got to talk to Tom last night - like two hour convo.
We're going to see Van Helsing next week or the
following weekend. On the one hand, I'd have liked
to have seen him this weekend, but it's nice that
we're both not in an all-fired hurry, and I could
sure use a bit of time to myself this weekend.
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evilE wrote:
Yeah, it's always important to find/make "me time" in
your life.
Cyrus Pine was my favorite character too :)
I sent e. 'happy birthday' email on MOnday. For
some reason I had it in my head that her bday was the
3rd rather than the 23rd. She wrote back & asked me if
I wanted to do something. I suggested Van Helsing, and
she was all like "Oh, I already have plans to see
that" (Like the theatre was going to be 100% full of
all the people who were going with her and I couldn't
possibly fit, right), and how about we go see
"Godsend" some other time? A movie with a kid in it.
yeah, sure. It looks creepy & stuff, but I don't
really want to see it. I hate how she makes me feel. I
wonder if I should actually tell her that, or just
give up. *sigh* I lose a friend either way, one is
less fraught with drama. I think I'll go with the
'silence is golden' approach from here on in. Why do I
keep bothering? :(
I kinda wish onyxlynxx had not been so positive & happy
about the possibility of re-meeting UB, so we could
dish old dirt. Oh well.
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Date: Thu, 6 May 2004 09:47:52 -0700 (PDT)
From: "J-Law Add to Address
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Subject: Re: Sorry Honey...
To: "evilE
Maybe onyxlynxx was just being nice? Like, being unsure of how you feel
about UB and/or assuming that you have positive feelings for her, she
didn't want to say anything negative, but felt that she had to say
something.
For example, Gloria, one of the secretaries here, and I have a mutual
acquaintance. One day, she asked me, "oh, then you must know Susanne
Aronowitz!" I said that I did know her, and that she is nice, even
though I absolutely loathe her (Susanne). It's true that Susanne is
nice when you first meet her, but she is one of these people who has
an agenda, and if you don't fit into it, she won't give you the time
of day.
As for e..... silence is golden is the way to go.... but there's
two sides to this: outward silence, as in not reaching out to her,
trying to plan things, etc., which is fairly easy. The tough thing
is inward silence, i.e., you, internally, making peace with your
outward decision. Does that make sense? I think what's troubling
you is not so much the getting together/fuckwittage with e., but
the internal conflict that you have about it/your friendship with
her.
If I can use myself as an example: me freaking out about men - is he
gonna call, why isn't he calling, he is a fuckwit bla bla bla, e.g.,
Sacto John. Contrast that with more recent events, in which I have
just stopped listening to that internal voice. It is still there
sometimes, but it gets quieter and quieter.... I have no control
over whether they are going to call, or if they are jerking me
around, just as you have no control over e.'s flakiness.
What we both have control over is (a) how we react (i.e., say
something, say nothing); and (b) making peace with our chosen
reaction and moving on with our lives. If you opt for silence is
golden, than your making peace part is a little easier. You aren't
causing big drama, you aren't saying things that you might regret,
bla bla bla. You're just detaching.
XOXOXOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
J-Law