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    May 6, 2004

     

     

    --- J-Law wrote:
    Sweet! I am very ready as well. I wanted to be
    outta here days ago.... but it's been nice to be
    here and slacking, then go on vacay, come back and
    slack some more. :)

    I've heard nothing but good things about JetBlue,
    so I am actually looking forward to the flight. And,
    I am planning to pack a lunch in case I get hungry
    for real food. I am going a la francais: ham and brie
    on baguette and fruit. I figure that would
    withstand the rigors of travel.
    =========
    me:

    evilE  wrote:
    I just got done with a Peter Mayle fiction
    book--_Chasing Cezanne_. It was very cute & fun,
    made me want to TRAVEL! And eat French food... *sigh*

    There's a scene where two of the characters are
    getting ready to fly from Paris to NY and they can't
    face the thought of airplane food, so they stop in a
    market and buy wine, baguette, etc. and when they
    get onboard, one of the characters instructs the
    stewardess on how to care for & serve the wine
    (something like "It should be gently chilled, not
    shocked"). It's hilarious! Totally reminded me of
    you and your Jet Blue picnic :) That's a great idea, though. I would
    have never thought of it. I may have to pop by Whole Foods or
    Central Market the day I leave so that I don't have to face peanuts
    in the air and dry bagels in the airport... :P

    I went to poly dinner last night & it was fun. Found
    out that a gal I'm starting to befriend was one of
    skye_ds's classmates at UT. Amazingly, this girl
    remembers 'Andie' fondly and wants me to put them
    back in touch. Well, okaaaay...
    ============================
    --- J-Law wrote:
    I LOVE Chasing Cezanne. One of my favorite books.
    I love Cyrus Pine - he is so hilarious and cute. I
    was thinking of that very scene when I was planning
    my inflight repast. :)

    Interesting about UB's classmate. Fond memories of
    "Andie." Chuh.

    Got to talk to Tom last night - like two hour convo.
    We're going to see Van Helsing next week or the
    following weekend. On the one hand, I'd have liked
    to have seen him this weekend, but it's nice that
    we're both not in an all-fired hurry, and I could
    sure use a bit of time to myself this weekend.
    ==================
    evilE  wrote:
    Yeah, it's always important to find/make "me time" in
    your life.

    Cyrus Pine was my favorite character too :)

    I sent e. 'happy birthday' email on MOnday. For
    some reason I had it in my head that her bday was the
    3rd rather than the 23rd. She wrote back & asked me if
    I wanted to do something. I suggested Van Helsing, and
    she was all like "Oh, I already have plans to see
    that" (Like the theatre was going to be 100% full of
    all the people who were going with her and I couldn't
    possibly fit, right), and how about we go see
    "Godsend" some other time? A movie with a kid in it.
    yeah, sure. It looks creepy & stuff, but I don't
    really want to see it. I hate how she makes me feel. I
    wonder if I should actually tell her that, or just
    give up. *sigh* I lose a friend either way, one is
    less fraught with drama. I think I'll go with the
    'silence is golden' approach from here on in. Why do I
    keep bothering? :(

    I kinda wish onyxlynxx had not been so positive & happy
    about the possibility of re-meeting UB, so we could
    dish old dirt. Oh well.

    ===========================
    Date: Thu, 6 May 2004 09:47:52 -0700 (PDT)
    From: "J-Law Add to Address
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    Subject: Re: Sorry Honey...
    To: "evilE 

    Maybe onyxlynxx was just being nice? Like, being unsure of how you feel
    about UB and/or assuming that you have positive feelings for her, she
    didn't want to say anything negative, but felt that she had to say
    something.

    For example, Gloria, one of the secretaries here, and I have a mutual
    acquaintance. One day, she asked me, "oh, then you must know Susanne
    Aronowitz!" I said that I did know her, and that she is nice, even
    though I absolutely loathe her (Susanne). It's true that Susanne is
    nice when you first meet her, but she is one of these people who has
    an agenda, and if you don't fit into it, she won't give you the time
    of day.

    As for e..... silence is golden is the way to go.... but there's
    two sides to this: outward silence, as in not reaching out to her,
    trying to plan things, etc., which is fairly easy. The tough thing
    is inward silence, i.e., you, internally, making peace with your
    outward decision. Does that make sense? I think what's troubling
    you is not so much the getting together/fuckwittage with e., but
    the internal conflict that you have about it/your friendship with
    her.

    If I can use myself as an example: me freaking out about men - is he
    gonna call, why isn't he calling, he is a fuckwit bla bla bla, e.g.,
    Sacto John. Contrast that with more recent events, in which I have
    just stopped listening to that internal voice. It is still there
    sometimes, but it gets quieter and quieter.... I have no control
    over whether they are going to call, or if they are jerking me
    around, just as you have no control over e.'s flakiness.

    What we both have control over is (a) how we react (i.e., say
    something, say nothing); and (b) making peace with our chosen
    reaction and moving on with our lives. If you opt for silence is
    golden, than your making peace part is a little easier. You aren't
    causing big drama, you aren't saying things that you might regret,
    bla bla bla. You're just detaching.

    XOXOXOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

    J-Law

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