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[evile]

• Jun. 29, 2004

 

evile: howdy :P
SkyeDS: mornin darlin
evile: Are we still on for Friday after work or do you want to save
it for another time?
evile: (just flipped over to check out July calendar which is why I
ask)
SkyeDS: sure <looks sheepish> where were we going?
evile: *shrugs* I think I have some garb-ish stuff to give you if you
want it, mall-ratting. I don't think we had a Plan As Such.
SkyeDS: and I can give you my corsets and see if they fit
evile: cool :)
SkyeDS: I had thought to give you the purple and red ones, they're
smaller and have never been worn
SkyeDS: but you're welcome to the black one too
evile: awesome. Whatever you wanna do.
SkyeDS: but it's been worn, the boning will have to be ironed out or
replaced, and one of the grommets needs replacing
evile: *nods* I need to re-bone a corset I got on ebay--the current
boning is some plastic crap that does nothing.
evile: One of these days...it's On The List
SkyeDS: /me looks at her many Lists that are way too long
evile: *nods* metoooo.
evile: I actually have to measure the corset and order the boning --
many steps which are somewhat daunting.
evile: but my work room is clean...so that was a big first step :P
evile: OOH! this is fun--Class is cancelled Wednesday for belt
testing, so I am actually free to maybe attend Poly Dinner :) it's
been ages!
SkyeDS: maybe Bryce will be there (yum)
evile: That would be nice :)
evile: I'm already mentally spending my next paycheck...usually more
fun than actually doing it :P
evile: I want absinthe. And I've wanted some for a long time. So I
think I'm going to get some.
SkyeDS: kaleon was going to make his own
evile: ick.
SkyeDS: by adding wormwood to vermouth
SkyeDS: I told him he'd better by it overseas and have it sent here
SkyeDS: because you fuck up with wormwood internally and you're dead
SkyeDS: and it's one of those things like pennyroyal
SkyeDS: more than two teaspoons and you're dead
evile: yeah, that whole quality control thing is good to have...
SkyeDS: it of course launched a huge debate
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: heaven forbid someone know more than he does about any of his
pet subjects
evile: *laff*
evile: There's only one variety of wormwood that has thujone, anyway,
and I don't think it's commonly available in the states. (if I recall
from my research on the topic)
SkyeDS: lots of people grow their own
SkyeDS: I don't know about the thujone thing
SkyeDS: I only use ww externally
SkyeDS: food, brb
SkyeDS: bk
evile: hey again :)
evile: Maybe I'll just get absinthe spoons & glasses this month....
evile: It's nice to have options :P
SkyeDS: must be, I wouldn't know. haven't had them in a long time :P
evile: Of course, I did buy myself alcohol LAST month, my little
leopard print tequila purse.
evile: These days I mostly just drink beer, so I dont' know why I
think to bother with buying hard liquor or wine.
SkyeDS: I have a stash of lambrusco and coolers in the fridge that I
was using for pain management before the hospital trip
evile: and If I ever want to get serious about LC again I've got to
give it all up...
evile: I got a wine saver thing that is supposed to be able to keep
wine fresh so you only drink a glass or two then put the rest away.
it doesn't seem to work.
evile: It's supposed to create a vacuum in the bottle, but the vacuum
doesn't seem to hold overnight.
SkyeDS: :(
evile: And I really shouldn't be drinking a bottle of wine at a
sitting.
SkyeDS: they say no more than three glasses a day
SkyeDS: I can't see drinking t hat much but that's me
evile: *nods*
evile: It's too bad that no really tasty wine is made in those little
single-serving picnic bottles.
SkyeDS: single serving alcoholic beverages are way cool
evile: yeah. back in my classy picnic days, I used to do that alot.
evile: Not much nicer than climbing Mt. Bonnell with a couple picnic
bottles, baguette, pate, cheese, some Ghiradelli squares...yum.
SkyeDS: good food and drink makes everything better
evile: indeed :)
evile: it's too bad you can't park anywhere near the 360 overlook
anymore, that was a nice spot to watch sunsets & enjoy classy picnic.
SkyeDS: stlil want to investigate Pace Bend
SkyeDS: and Bandera
evile: yeah.
SkyeDS: my "sister" is moving to Conway AR, and I want to go to Hot
Springs
SkyeDS: and NOLA
evile: New Orleans is only good in spring or fall. Possibly winter,
but its' a stretch. wet-cold is VERY cold.
evile: Hot Springs would be cool to try out sometime.
SkyeDS: prefer travelling spring/fall anyway
evile: Yeah...summer isn't good for much.
evile: Erin, Marca & co are going to Six Flags in Dallas July 10. too
far, too hot.
SkyeDS: haven't been to SF in forever
SkyeDS: last time we went was when Dell gave sineater tickets to Fiesta
Texas and they let us put arthur in t heir pet room
evile: I like Fiesta TX. Their water area is pretty nice.
evile: You know...you'd think after so long I would have figured out
that more stuff does not make me happy. What I like is going places &
doing things. I should just save my money for more travel.
evile: it's just that 'instant gratification' vs 'deferred
gratification' thing that is troublesome. If I want a thing, I buy
the thing, I have it, I'm momentarily happy. Harder to be sad for a
long time waiting to have what I want, even though it'll ultimately
be more fulfilling.
SkyeDS: nods
evile: I guess I should practice that more so that it becomes easier.
SkyeDS: like tantric sex? ;)
evile: ugh. no thanks.
SkyeDS: long time practicing for more fulfillment, what I meant
evile: I don't like sex enough to waste so much of my sleep-time on
wacky positions & whatnot.
evile: I like my sex Johnny Rotten style: "Two minutes of squishy
noises"
SkyeDS: lol
evile: One of my classmates asked me last night if I had "lots of
children"..Not just 'one' or 'any'..but 'lots of'...eugh. I rudely
laughed in his face
SkyeDS: lol
evile: very sad that my body looks as if it's had "lots of kids".
SkyeDS: how do you explain people that think I'm 28, sonar0m is 17,
and I'm his mother
evile: *shrug* That was an annoying feature of the Kill Bill series--
QT does not seem to have any idea of human female gestation period
nor of what childbirth does to the female body, nor of child
development.
evile: Maybe people just don't know anything about making babies
anymore....
evile: I dont' think it's allowed to be taught in schools anymore...
evile: I just about died when someone asked if Sunshine/tommy was my
kid, and I was all like "NO!!!!"...and then realized that, actually,
I am old enough to have given birth to him....
SkyeDS: lolol
evile: I would have had to be a teenage skank ho, but indeed it is
biologically possible. Whereas it is not biologically possible for
you to have given birth to your lover, as goddessypagancool as that
may be...
SkyeDS: ROFL no thanks
SkyeDS: incest is on the no way in hell list
evile: I think it's context that we are n't getting. See me by
myself, I could pass for mid 20's; see me with a kid, think I'm a mom
in my 30's
evile: hear me bossing the kid around, REALLY think I'm a mom.
SkyeDS: that's why I don't get "you look 28, he looks 17, and are you
his mom?"
SkyeDS: I could come closer to being his mom with our real ages 34/17
SkyeDS: err 34/21
SkyeDS: 13 year difference as opposed to 11
evile: So the same person made all of those assumptions at the same
time? Wierd
SkyeDS: very
evile: *shrug* some people really must be ignorant of human biology.
aliens walk among us. who knows?
evile: Jenni's play opens Thursday. I am trying to get a reservation.
Their paypal link isn't working. could be my work 'puter, it's given
me trouble with Paypal before.
evile: supposedly you can email the box office & ask them to hold a
ticket and pay cash at the door, but I haven't heard back from the
box office yet so I'm worried.
SkyeDS: nods
evile: If you wanted, we could change our get together night to
Thurs, see the play together? Save you some crazy holiday weekend
traffic on Friday, maybe?
SkyeDS: friday is fine
SkyeDS: want me to come over there when I get off work? meet at
capital or meet here?
evile: OK. I was just thinking of what the roads might be
like...people drive like crap on the friday before a long weekend.
SkyeDS: tis, but I don't work Saturday
evile: I have phone duty so I'm done on Friday at 3. Makes very
little sense for me to spend 2-3 hours up here when I could go home &
relax a while.
evile: so you can actually stay out& sleep in the next day. right.
sorry. didn't think.
SkyeDS: you're right
SkyeDS: I could come by your place after work?
evile: that works for me :)
SkyeDS: get paid this week too that's helpful
evile: me too. Thursday.
SkyeDS: I wish it were legal to shoot people in t he face with a
bazooka <sigh>
evile: yeah.
SkyeDS: not that it being illegal stops Hugh or sineater
evile: heh.
evile: all the internet stuff just got slow over here. ...so if I
disappear that's what happened.
SkyeDS: tay
evile: wierd...
evile: This may be the most Unfortunate Name Ever: Baby Ruth King
SkyeDS: lol
SkyeDS: there was a parrot named Sweet Baby Jesus
evile: OMG, that's awful.
SkyeDS: let me ask you a question
SkyeDS: somebody emails yo u
SkyeDS: the email does not seem to ask anything that requires an
immediate reply
SkyeDS: and you don't have anything that immediately needs saying
SkyeDS: so do you send a response automatically to every single email
you get?
evile: I spend a lot of time being bored, so me, yes.
evile: usually.
evile: If I'm busy, no.
evile: next day would be about the latest I ever respond to an EMail.
Unless it's something I have to look up & get info for the person, or
something like that.
SkyeDS: I guess I'm wrong then
SkyeDS: but I am not accustomed to getting responses to every email I
send, particularly not if I'm not asking for a response
evile: *shrug* I dont t hink there's an emily post for email. It
certainly isn't polite to go off on someone if they dont' write you
back right away.
SkyeDS: and so I don't always respond to FYI type emails
evile: you don't even respond to emails with questions sometimes.
That's your right.
SkyeDS: I try to.
SkyeDS: I don't always get them.
evile: It may frustrate the person on the other end, but still no
excuse for rudeness on the othe rperson's end.
evile: Yeah...usually when I don't hear back and I need an answer
I'll try back 1ce, and THEN get pissy after that.
SkyeDS: tex1.net has spam filtering and I can't turn it off
SkyeDS: sineater gets less of his mail than I do of mine for the same
reason
evile: *nods*
SkyeDS: just pisses me off/wounds me
SkyeDS: that someone who's always complaining that I don't reply
SkyeDS: doesn't reply to an email that I thought deserved one
SkyeDS: then when I ask shrugs it off and says, didn't get it
SkyeDS: which has NEVER been something said person ever accepted from
me
evile: Well...either reply every time all the time, or blow them off
completely, depending on how important their goodwill is to you.
SkyeDS: and t hen hauls off with poor me, you always treated all of
your friends better than me, bla bla bla
evile: *shrug* drama sucks.
evile: it's up to you to decide how important this person is and
whether or not they're worth the hassle.
SkyeDS: I actually had written this person off because of no response
until I got msged just now
evile: If they've complained repeatedly that you dont' reply, and
you've explained your outlook on replies, and they either can't or
wont' accept your communication style, and they're not important
enough to change your style for...just blow 'em off.
SkyeDS: thing is, I DID reply
SkyeDS: it apparently wasn't received
SkyeDS: but that's not acceptable, for me not to reply to email I
don't receive
SkyeDS: just for someone else
evile: Most email programs have some thing you can do to verify that
the mail was rec'd and opened. If it's important to them they can key
their email to you that way and have proof of when/if you read.
SkyeDS: nods
evile: And if you give a shit, you can do the same to them, and/or
save a copy to a 'sent' folder with their name on it. So if they want
to fuss at you, you can say "Sent X day at X time,"

SkyeDS: a true friend won't require a courtproof paper trail
evile: it's just a matter of how important this person's
interactions are to you. If you can live happily without them, sounds
like you should.
evile: *nods* Yeah...if they ask 'why didn't you write back" and you
say "I did" and they say "I dint' get it" you say sorry, and that
should be the end of it rather than all this BS drama.
SkyeDS: my first problem with this is, when I don't get mail and I
don't respond to something I don't get, that is not acceptable
SkyeDS: and then to have a big BS guilttrip laid on me by someone who
has treated me like shit for over a year.
evile: *shrug* it doesn't sound to me like this person is worth all
these hurt feelings. Why give them so much of your energy?
SkyeDS: I guess I"m going to have to block him
SkyeDS: I've deleted him from all my msgrs, but to keep from getting
msged I'll just have to block
evile: "I replied, sorry you didn't get it. Call me sometime on the
phone & we can talk, if you want."
SkyeDS: which will be seen as hostile but I don't fucking care anymore
SkyeDS: I get accused of hostility regardless of what I do
evile: nope. doesn't sound like its' worth any more effort on your
part. This person is going to ascribe hostile motives no matter what
you do/don't do.
SkyeDS: yep
evile: might as well do what's easiest & best for yourself, fuck 'em.
evile: I've been fortunate lately..haven't been at odds with anyone.
Maybe I'm getting bettter at this stuff!
SkyeDS: sighs
evile: *knocks wood*
evile: I keep thinking it's Wednesday already. *sigh* It's going to
be a long week.
SkyeDS: nods
evile: Oh well. Pay day on Thurs will be a help. And hopefully poly
dinner Wed. too. I'm maybe going to the movies tonight with my little
flakey friend Elena. I forgot my cell phone, so she probably has
called to cancel sometime today.
evile: She is always pulling these bizarre flake things, and guilt
trips because we don't spend more time...well, she is a competitive
bike racer, and that takes literally 8 months out of the year. So
please tell me how we can spend more time together when 8 months of
the year she is in the gym or on the trails?
SkyeDS: no clue
evile: Definitely one of those situations where I was letting myself
get hurt feelings for no good reason. Now, I'm kind of
like 'whatever' when she calls or emails and wants to do something. I
agree to whatever she wants to do, 9 times out of 10 she cancels at
the last minute. It doesn't take much effort or emotion on my part
evile: And all of her personal problems are the same ones she had in
college, so that's a no-brainer for me to make the right noises
about... it's pretty low maintenance, doesn't waste too much of my
time & energy, and she seems happy with the situation.
SkyeDS: wish some of my friends were that easy
evile: *shrug* the sad thing is that she could die tomorrow and I
would not miss her. And probably feels same about me. there is more
of a risk involved in Real friendships, but definitely more of a
payoff, too.
evile: If she ever got snippy with me about replying to emails or
returning calls, I'd happily give her the boot without a second
thought.
SkyeDS: nods
evile: I just need to get better at being a hermit.
evile: because I don't have the time, energy, or $ to be a good
friend to anyone.
evile: wooops, it's 4. time for me to walk paper.
evile: *hugs* Talk at ya tomorrow. Drive safe!
SkyeDs: hugs

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