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[evile]

Jul. 19, 2004

 

SkyeDS: how do, how was weekend?
evile: unproductive. But Sunday was pretty awesome.
SkyeDS: what you do Sun.
evile: I'm going to have to go home and bust my ass every day after
work to get the house clean by Friday.
evile: Sunday was poly tubing in San Marcos. Way cool. I want to go
again soon :)
SkyeDS: love tubing
SkyeDS: last weekend of month, definitely going swimming at least
evile: It was great fun. The SA polys were...um...outgoing.
SkyeDS: outgoing like Mouser? outgoing more than Mouser?
evile: Mom's plane leaves at Noon the 31st, I'll be free after that.
evile: Outgoing like "licking chocolate pudding off of cleavage on
the shores of a river where hundreds of children and parents and
vanillas were looking on in horror"
SkyeDS: I suppose I shouldn't find that funny
evile: I am all for whatever consenting adults want to do amongst
htemselves, BUT...there is a time & place and I didn't feel they
picked that very intelligently.
SkyeDS: nope
SkyeDS: and I spent Sun with the children of Dad's extended family
evile: The boobs in question were quite lovely, and attached to a
gorgeous woman...BUT.
SkyeDS: I would have taken exception had they been exposed to that
evile: So you had a good fam. reunion?
SkyeDS: nods :)
evile: I'm glad.
SkyeDS: did none of the parents say anything?
evile: As far as I know, nobody approached the 'show' to say
anything. I noticed what they were doing, was horrified, and went
out of my way to do something else, look somewhere else. Niki now
calls the SA polys "The Snack Pack"
evile: She is a wicked, evil, naughty girl that Niki. We had a great
time being evil together yesterday.
SkyeDS: if I were a parent, I think I would have said something (or
sineater would have, and he isn't always tactful)
evile: Oh well.
evile: For me personally the incident was not worth ruining my mellow
day over.
SkyeDS: what evils did you unleash on the world ;)
evile: Nothing too dreadful, we were just being sort of witty/snarky,
a lot of verbal play. Most of which we did while kids were not in
earshot, and even if htey had been, it would have gone far over their
heads.
evile: it was mostly just a fun, relaxing day. A good bunch of folks.
SkyeDS: :)
evile: I didn't realize it, but you can apparently tube down and ride
back as many times as you want in 1 day. I was under the impression
that 1 tube rental=1 ride down. So that was a happy surprise. I could
spend a day doing that again.
SkyeDS: cool
SkyeDS: how much time does it take round trip? tubing down and riding
back
evile: Maybe an hour round trip. It's not very long.
evile: We went into the water at 2, came back up, ate & visited, then
went back down again & went down the waterfall several times before
the last shuttle run at 6:30
evile: Maybe Sweetie will go next time. he's got a rash on his arms &
didn't want to aggravate it with sunscreen & rubbing against a tube
all day.
SkyeDS: :(
evile: I think he's allergic to either our laundry detergent or dryer
sheets.
SkyeDS: dat sux
evile: yeah.
SkyeDS: so sleepy
SkyeDS: txka not really a weekend run when you're 34, like it was
when you were 21
evile: *nods*
evile: I wonder if I should start a Schlitterbahn poll on polyaustin.
Like, what day would be best to go....
SkyeDS: sounds good to me
evile: feeling a little wierd about the yahoogroup--first with the
Diva nonsense, and now a new member who is [ex stepdad]'s ex wife...
evile: ooh, that was a bad thing on Sunday: Niki & I were speaking
about the Diva, turns out that the 3rd member of our little tube-
cluster is dating her. OOPS.
SkyeDS: hard to keep up w who's doing who
evile: I don't think I said anything too terribly uncomplimentary,
just that I wasn't impressed with her & couldn't believe how
distressed she got about my gothfest post.
SkyeDS: shrugs
SkyeDS: people can deal
evile: true. I just don't really care to be seen as a nasty shrew who
talks smack behind peoples backs (even if its true)
evile: And I'd been pretty careful in the poly group to try and be
the kinder gentler E. So yesterday was a bit of a blip on the charts,
I guess.
SkyeDS: you've done worse
SkyeDS: so have I
SkyeDS: and so have others if they're honest
evile: sure. But I like myself better when I'm not being nasty. Fine
line between witty and nasty. I might have crossed it.
evile: Oh well. I did and said what I did and said...if it ends
friendships, so be it.
SkyeDS: hope not
evile: me too.
evile: Poll is up.
SkyeDS: :)
evile: Erinlefey suggestd that I put up the poll, being that I have
more 'charisma' than she does....where do people GET these ideas
about me???
SkyeDS: observation?
evile: I'm flattered but I just dont' see it....
SkyeDS: my lesson's mom today told me I was valuable
SkyeDS: because I have a calm, cool head.
SkyeDS: go figure
evile: In your own element(s)/areas of expertise, you are very
competent & clear-headed.
evile: she probably just didn't want to do the work so flattered me
into doing it. :P
SkyeDS: flattery will get you everywhere
evile: *nods* And Erinlefey has some people-managing skills, so that's
probably it :)
evile: I'm glad your Monday a.m. lessons are going well :) That's a
nice way to start the week, I would think.
SkyeDS: it is
evile: doesn't sound like she's given much credibility to any of your
naysayers, either.
evile: actions speak louder than words & all of that...
SkyeDS: this isn't the lesson that B was trying to coax away
evile: oh. Ok.
SkyeDS: this is the kind of lesson B wouldn't touch w a 10 foot pole
SkyeDS: because he's ADD
evile: *nods*
SkyeDS: and I won't lose this client because I'm part of the
solution, not part of the problem
evile: Good for you :)
SkyeDS: I have decided, that if Megan takes from Bridget, and she
does well, I will be happy for her
SkyeDS: Bridget could teach her a whole lot that I couldn't
SkyeDS: if Strider, who is a perfect horse, gets ruined in the
process, they'll c ome back to me
SkyeDS: if not, good
evile: *nods* One of the folks out tubing yesterday used to train
dogs. Got tired of having people bring the animals back repeatedly
after ruining their good habits/training.
SkyeDS: exactly
SkyeDS: why I didn't want to go back into training
SkyeDS: but you can't train wihtout giving lessons
SkyeDS: or vice versa
SkyeDS: not and do it right
SkyeDS: so I'm not taking clients who don't listen to me from now on
SkyeDS: and I have a very long talk at the get go
evile: Exactly. He felt bad for the animals, but just got sick of
dealing with the lazy stupid people who wouldn't bother with
reinforcing the good behavior he'd taught the dogs.
SkyeDS: it's the I don't want prozac and zestril for breakfast thing
evile: *nods*
evile: This dog trainer, Doug, had been taking a break from dog
training for a while, apparently. Burnout is hard to deal with. And
it must be really awful to burnout from doing something that you used
to LOVE.
SkyeDS: been there, done that
SkyeDS: I would like him
evile: He is way cool.
evile: very funny, too.
SkyeDS: maybe I'll get the chance to cross paths some day
SkyeDS: no doubt worlds of things I could learn from him
evile: hope so. There are lots of cool people in the group that I
enjoy getting a chance to visit with 1-on-1. The big First Wednesday
dinner is great for seeing folks, saying hi&bye, but yesterday was a
good 'sit and visit' day.
SkyeDS: is he in the polys?
evile: *nods*
SkyeDS: oh cool, then I know where to find him :)
evile: yup.
evile: I'm going to miss poly dinner again this week (class) and next
week ([Sister H] & mom visit) *sigh* Oh well.
SkyeDS: sineater thought they were in town two weeks, I told him to my
understanding it was just one.
evile: Mom is here 23rd to 31st. [Sister H] is here 23 to 8th, but from
31st to 8th, she is with her dad & may be unavailable for stuff with
our side of the fam.
evile: I guess I'll email him with the info..could have sworn I'd
already imparted this more than once. Oh well.
SkyeDS: he forgets, it is well to remind him (gently) from time to
time
SkyeDS: gently so as not to be nagging.
evile: boy needs a calendar.
SkyeDS: he needs a secretary :)
evile: I'm not anybody's fuckin' social secretary, I don't like
repeating myself 20 times because people can't be bothered to write
shit down or save email or whatever they need to do to be responsible
for their 1/2 of the interaction....
evile: Sorry, ti's not just sineater who seems to have this problem. Just
venting in general.
SkyeDS: tell me bout it
evile: I get tired of chasing people around begging them to spend
time.
evile: It hurts my feelings and makes me feel invalidated when people
don't seem to put as much into stuff as I do.
evile: When someone doesn't acknowledge the info I give them, or
forgets to act on it, it makes me feel like I dont' matter to them.
evile: I get tired of feeling like I don't matter to anyone.
SkyeDS: am lokoing very forward to no commitments
SkyeDS: then we can run around :)
evile: *nods*
SkyeDS: move is Wed nite
SkyeDS: err movie
evile: yup.
SkyeDS: don't think I want to walk all the way from work so I will
jsut risk parking
evile: There may be a window between workers going home & party
people coming out where you can find a spot.
evile: I'm just going to walk from work, maybe stop at Gingerman or
somewhere for a beer.
SkyeDS: lol that makes me feel like a weenie
evile: *shrug* you are further away.
SkyeDS: not think so
evile: ok.
SkyeDS: but I guess that depends on how you measure
SkyeDS: I know I can walk in a straight line and be where you are in
10 min or less
SkyeDS: but you may be closer to Colorado
evile: I get off work 'round 4:15, you will be in your office until,
what, 6? Box office opens at 6:15. So I have more time to meander.
SkyeDS: I'm accustomed to walking down to the courthouse (10th) and
the Board (4th/Guad)
evile: *nods*
SkyeDS: I will give it thought
SkyeDS: also will have sineater with me, will ask him if he feels like
walking
evile: *nods*
evile: Well, like I said, time will be more of an issue for y'all,
since you get done with work later than me. Box office opens at 6:15,
seating will probably begin by 6:30.
SkyeDS: if I get here early I can leave early
evile: 5-6 is probably a good window for finding vacated parking
spaces downtown.
SkyeDS: makes sense
evile: there used to be a free state lot & parking garage near there,
but I think it's all pay now.
SkyeDS: right off 4th & guad, used to be, don't know now
evile: I know the lot is pay now. Not sure about the garage.
SkyeDS: dammit
SkyeDS: I had a tent I could have given Sharjinka but I sold it to
that twat that is still following sineater around after he told her to
get lost.
evile: She didn't ask for a tent, she asked for crash space.
SkyeDS: because she doesn't have a tent
SkyeDS: if I had a tent to give her then she'd have a tent
evile: *grinz* she didn't ask for a tent, she asked for crash space.
I get good mileage of interpreting people literally these days.
SkyeDS: I still would rather have given her mine than sold it to the
twat
evile: *nods*
evile: hindsight is 20/20 and all that.
SkyeDS: dammit anyway
evile: heh.
evile: Oh, latest the Rubber Pig miserydrama: she is having some sort
of "family gathering" on the 26th, to which only my mother has been
invited.
SkyeDS: that's CRW weekend :-/
evile: it's actually the Monday after CRW. But nonetheless, Mom is
the only person the Rubber Pig called to invite. She hasn't invited me, [Sister H],
Aunt L, sineater & you, or anyone else in [Brother A]'s family.
SkyeDS: odd idea of family
SkyeDS: maybe she meant hers
evile: Oh, apparently her 'whole family' is getting together.
evile: but only 1 of [Brother A]'s is invited.
evile: Apparently mom is the only one who passed the breakup-drama-
phone-everyone test.
SkyeDS: lol well excuse the rest of us, geez
evile: no shit, right. Oh well, I guess she doesn't realize that Mom
isn't renting a car and she will have to be driven down by someone...
evile: Honestly, that's the only thing I can think of that the Rubber Pig
could possibly be pissed about. That we didn't do...whatever....when
she called hysterical and in tears to announce the big breakup.
evile: In person, everyone is polite to her (even assuming we could
get in a word edgewise to say something impolite, nobody ever has)
evile: Aunt L & Uncle B kept her damn rugrats for a week & bought them
stuff.
evile: I called back as soon as I was able, and left a message that
sounded polite & concerned.
evile: So...I don't know why nobody ranked an invitation but Mom.
SkyeDS: it could be arranged that we *all* drive mom down there, that
is an option
evile: heh.
evile: I don't care if I never see her or her crotchfruit again, but
if she's set up some kind of no-win situation and manipulated [Brother A]
into hating everyone but Mom, that will need a swift & fatal
smackdown.
SkyeDS: [Brother A] doesn't seem inclined to hate anyone including people he
ought to at least steer clear of. Could she manage that?
evile: He hasn't called Aunt L or Me or anyone else but Mom since
the "breakup."
SkyeDS: so what time is the get together
evile: If he feels that Aunt L and I were 'mean' to the Rubber Pig, he may feel
defensive of her and that we need to be out of the picture.
evile: No idea. Mom mentioned it in passing to Aunt L, Aunt L mentioned
it in passing to me.
evile: the Rubber Pig may be flakey enough not to give people times/places to
attend family gatherings, or Mom may have assumed Aunt L had an invite,
too, so didn't need details.
SkyeDS: well, if she goes, she will need to be driven, so then we'll
know
evile: *nods*
evile: I'll let y'all know as soon as I know anything.
evile: My bet is that [Brother A] somehow feels that he needs to protect
the Rubber Pig from Me, Aunt L, You, sineater, stepdad, etc.
SkyeDS: maybe your mom is just supposed to be in SA at I don't know,
5 am, and just sit and wait
SkyeDS: as angry as [stepdad] has sounded....
SkyeDS: but you and sineater have made no angry noise
evile: *shrug* Mom has more sense than that & is not a doormat. If
[Brother A] makes it hard for her to see him, she will not jump through
hoops.
evile: she's already indicated that she isn't interested in doing a
lot of driving during this trip. She'd rather sit & visit.
SkyeDS: doesn't sound like the Rubber Pig cares much about what anyone else
wants....
evile: nope.
SkyeDS: I thought the Rubber Pig was on the edge of death all summer with her
back surgery and all that
evile: no, she went in on a Friday and was released to go home the
Sunday of the same week.
evile: yet another drama false alarm.
SkyeDS: if I wnated to be bad, I'd make a trip to SA and be all scary
SkyeDS: people keep telling me I'm scary
SkyeDS: that would just make things worse, but it's entertaining to
think about anyway
evile: yeah.
SkyeDS: lots of things i find entertaining to think about, but I
don't do
SkyeDS: that and I'm a wuss
evile: Unfo, [Brother A] will get the fallout from whatever offense his
family gives, I think.
SkyeDS: sounds like that's the case
evile: So best to try and stay on good terms, not give her any
excuses to treat [Brother A] or us poorly.
evile: If she's nasty to him and we've given her no excuse to do so,
maybe he'll wake up and say "hey, I don't deserve this crap!"
evile: Or, if not self-preserving, "Hey, there was no call to be
nasty to my sister/aunt! WTF!?"
evile: [Brother A] does tend to crusade for others far more than he takes up
for himself.
SkyeDS: <sighs, for the umpteenth time at the whole thing>
evile: yeah.
evile: trainwreck city.
evile: I just don't know what's ruder--only inviting one person to
a 'family' gathering, or showing up uninvited to said gathering.
SkyeDS: I don't know about degrees of rude very well
evile: Me neither. Both seem equally inexcusable. Being rude in
answer to rudeness doesn't seem like a very good option.
SkyeDS: but a good source of amusing musings allt he same
SkyeDS: which hurt no one if you keep them to yourself and those of
us who appreciate them
evile: *nod* true enough.
SkyeDS: I had a good time sniping at PtA & TnA, to you, Jinx, sineater
& sonar0m
evile: *nods*
SkyeDS: didn't bother Rita with it, although she would have been
amused if she weren't busy
SkyeDS: and in amusing myself that way, got it completely out of my
system
SkyeDS: like I haven't got other things demanding my energy
evile: exactly. so you can enjoy CRW without any leftover
stress/angst.


SkyeDS: Sharjinka would like to do another catwoman thing
evile: I think she should.
SkyeDS: I suggested to her that you and sineater are both susceptible to
flattery and exceedingly talented at the garb & makeup thing
SkyeDS: since Jonathan is no longer around
SkyeDS: don't be mad, I just suggested she ask.
SkyeDS: she wants a corset for CRW but is scared she'll fall out of
one
SkyeDS: I told her, darlin, if I don't fall out of mine, bucket o
guts that I am, I don't think you should worry
evile: *shrug*
evile: I am busy this weekend, so I would not be able to help her do
anything. Plus she hasn't asked.
SkyeDS: the cat thing would be for much later date
SkyeDS: anything involving lots of makeup at crw = bad idea, serious
meltdown
evile: *nods*

SkyeDS: tis your time <sighs> will be mine in two hours or so :)
evile: Have a good evening :)
SkyeDS: <hugs> wind to your wings, bella