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[evile]

Feb. 23, 2005

 

 

evile: hi :)
SkyeDS: how do :)
evile: Ok. Seems that in a 4 day work-week, they try to cram 5 days
worth of work hassle into it anyway.
SkyeDS: nods.
SkyeDS: Today is hectic around here because we have two deadlines
today
evile: eeps!
SkyeDS: and my efforts to have him producing work 7 days out before a
deadline SOP are not coming to fruition
evile: nope :P that's one of those lifetime bad habits
SkyeDS: <shrug> well, I try to keep him running at maximum
efficiency, that's all I can do
evile: yup.
evile: Full moon tonight :)
SkyeDS: been very pretty last few nights - the moon and the night in
general
evile: yup.
evile: T-storms forecast for later tonight...
SkyeDS: rain woke me up early this am, I don't remember if thunder
were involved
SkyeDS: the blackland prairie is turning an emerald verdant, even
more so after the rain, it just radiates
evile: I was having more awful dreams, and the cat was meowing half
the night. I don't remember rain at all.
evile: L&B's property is looking good. We went out there Saturday.
evile: Lots of bluebonnets this spring, looks like.
SkyeDS: bluebonnets are always a good gage of appropriate levels of
rain
evile: *nod*
evile: I can't believe terriblelynne hasn't apologized directly to onyxlynxx
yet...what a mess.
SkyeDS: was it onyxlynxx's home where all transpired?
evile: yes.
evile: Rifka is saying "OH, I thought you meant 'Kerbey Lane'
not 'onyxlynxx's house!' "
SkyeDS: *rolls eyes*
evile: Rifka handled onyxlynxx's smackdown very graciously and maturely,
IMHO. terriblelynne otoh is just digging herself deeper with all the
gratuitous indirect unclear drama-mongering posts in her LJ
SkyeDS: T has already established history of drama
SkyeDS: I will say this about T tho. When I had that bad experience
at Poly CM, and I wrote everyone involved to apologize for whatever
upset I may have inadvertently caused, terriblelynne was the only one of SIX
people to acknowledge my email in any form or fashion (including
Markus).
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: and that even though I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me much.
evile: Actually, I think she does like you. She's always spoken
positively of you to me, anyway.
SkyeDS: I do find out I'm wrong about my surmises from time to time.
SkyeDS: Aaron who is Porteus of Drandmir I could have sworn didn't
care for me at all and then one day he came up and wrapped his arms
around me, and it's been like that ever since. Who really knows.
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: owning one's own shit is even harder, I think sometimes, the
worse it is, and the guiltier you feel about it (I know that isn't
worded right and doesn't make good sense)
evile: *nod*
evile: Alot of the 'immature,' 'socially inept' and 'emotionally
fragile' labeling terriblelynne is sticking on Rifka could just as easily be
stuck on terriblelynne herself.
SkyeDS: we judge by our own yardsticks because they're the only
yardsticks we have maybe?
evile: easier to find and condemn such traits in others than to
objectively view ones own faults.
SkyeDS: it is largely true that what we hate most about others is
what we hate most about ourselves
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: except perhaps on some occasions some of us who are on
constant seek and destroy missions to root those things out of
ourselves.
evile: easier to replace a habit than destroy one, in my experience.
SkyeDS: yep, I watched Cali do that with his nailbiting
SkyeDS: replace it with a good habit rather than just trying to stop
SkyeDS: we have already estalbished of course that I am flakier than
any of the flakes in the various subcultures to which I belong
evile: I liked what Wombat said in onyxlynxx's LJ--the things that we are
fighting now, are habits and behaviors that were formed in our past,
that protected us and allowed us to survive to now. They aren't bad,
just outgrown and we need to find new ones to live better now.
SkyeDS: a great deal of what I hate, I cannot understand at all,
because i have not got a single bone in my body that would allow me
to do such a thing
SkyeDS: I liked that alot too.
evile: No wonder Apple chose him as her consort :)
SkyeDS: I posted to kulilinei today. I always feel a little awkward when
I don't know someone, posting to them.
evile: I'm pretty sure that's how I've gotten most of the people who
are on my friends list. posted in a friend of a friends LJ and the
rest is history :P
SkyeDS: usually I sign off bramblekite's sister in law if it's
someone I read on your friends list (as it almost always is)
SkyeDS: I forgot
evile: *shrug* I am pretty sure most people know who you are by now,
or at least would think to ask if they were worried/bothered about it.

evile: she's a very sweet, gentle person, but also pretty clear and
direct about stating her wants and boundaries.
SkyeDS: have probably already shot myself in the foot with her by
making a bad first impression on knighthorse
evile: *shrug* they aren't the same person.
SkyeDS: it will be nice if I did not make a bad first impression on
her through knighthorse, but it won't surprise me if I did.
evile: *shrug* let me put it to you this way: Kili and terriblelynne HATE
each other. knighthorse and Kili were a couple for over 10 years, and terriblelynne
and knighthore are very good friends, and terriblelynne frequently babysits his
child.
SkyeDS: I'm hoping to reserve the chance in future to meet kulilinei, and
make a good impression there, whenever that is :)
evile: I hope so, too. :)
SkyeDS: I resonate with a whole lot of what she expresses in her LJ
evile: She is a very thoughtful person. I like her a lot.
evile: She is very quiet in RL, kind of shy-seeming. Still waters run
deep. I try to listen more than I talk when I'm around her, but it's
tough sometimes :)
SkyeDS: slow, apologies
evile: s'okay :)
evile: Can I just say how fantastically STUPID chrisloy is? Jeezus.
SkyeDS: ROFL
evile: she is apparently a property manager at some apartments or
something, and she is talking about how she wants to get rid of her
maintenance guy, how he made her so mad she yelled at him in front of
some vendors.
evile: Imagine how surprised and angry she will be when he not only
wins his unemployment claim, but also finds he has lawsuit material
as a result of her losing her shit at him publically like that.
evile: I may even say 'told you so' at that point..
SkyeDS: you mean you were so gracious as to advise her against it?
evile: yup. and told her why, too.
SkyeDS: that was kind of you.
SkyeDS: I can't imagine she took it as it was intended tho
evile: I'm sure she'll get a bug up her panties about it. But oh well.
evile: I told her she needs to stay calm and make a paper trail, and
if she must reprimand him, to do so calmly and with only a member of
management or HR as witness, NOT tenants, clients, or vendors. it's
called creating a hostile workplace, big no no.
SkyeDS: nodnod
evile: There's plenty I don't know, but that I do.
SkyeDS: well no shit, sherlock
evile: chrisloy says:" He earned getting written up today and he
refused to take it behind closed doors. Kept walking away while I
was trying to talk to him. If he files for unemployment, I won't
fight it, I just wnat someone here who will actually DO his/her job."

evile: And be sure to tell your employer that when their tax rate
goes up because YOU didn't do your job properly. And when they don't
have any money to pay you, or give you a raise, that'll be why,
darling dear.
SkyeDS: ROFL
SkyeDS: mean old you
evile: amended to: "Ok.

I'm just telling you there's a way to get rid of him without opening
up your employer to having their UI tax rate go up and/or a lawsuit
for you creating a hostile work environment."
SkyeDS: that's what you get for your compassion.
evile: yup.
evile: the good news is that i don't know her or like her enough for
her opinion to matter, and she's burned enough bridges with people
whose opinions DO matter to me that it just doesn't matter what she
says to me or thinks of me.
evile: I hate to see people being ignorant, but I don't have any ego
or emotion caught up in her situation.
evile: love how she dragged it off into left field, about how he
deserved the write up. Of course he did, I didn't say otherwise. dumb
cunt.
SkyeDS: LOL LOL
evile: common defense mechanism, I've noticed. Do something egregious
in response to something where a reasonable response wouldhave been
__, then go back to the source of the egregious behavior, rather than
acknowledging your response as over the top.
SkyeDS: nods
SkyeDS: I have to go to the BME and SOAH, so I won't be back probably
before 4
SkyeDS: HUGS wind to your wings :)
evile: OK. drive safe *hugs*