EJ me to J-Law re: yesterday/last night, UB and Mom

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2961me to J-Law re: yesterday/last night, UB and Mom

 

Feb. 18, 2005

 

 

UB romped on me in ICQ yesterday over the whole Kaleon debacle, and
possibly accused me of spreading stories about her in HFS...it was so
bizarre. I was all like 'where the HELL did all this come
from?"...bottom line is, if you don't want people discussing your
outrageous, obnoxious, insane behavior, then DON'T behave that way.
Yes, it's unfortunate that stories grow as they spread, but if YOU
hadn't done something in the first place, nobody would have anything
to talk about. I want to share the crazy with someone, but at the
same time I don't want to burden anyone with the miserable
hatefulness of it.

And then right after all that, Aunt L and Mom picked me up from work so
I had to put on a happy face for them. We went shopping at Ross and
then back to Aunt L & Uncle B's and Aunt L made us dinner. So it was a
pleasant evening, pretty much.

[not sent to J-Law: I did mention the whole UB mess, and Uncle B said that
UB likes the attention, she enjoys talking bad about the people who
are talking bad about her. Also that I should not be afraid of her
retaliating against me if sineater decides to leave. I am not afraid, but
I am prepared. sineater is going to need to leave and go where he can't
be found. UB will more than likely come to my house and/or Aunt L &
Uncle B's looking for him. She has committed vandalism before, carved a
pentagram on her brother's truck on her way out of a family drama
with her parents in Texarkana. I am prepared for a similar outburst
if it comes to that. Mom and Aunt L both said I should shoot her if she
comes on my property. Would that not be faboo. Anyway...]

Mom asked me at one point if I liked Yummy, and I said [flat out,
harsh] "No" and then kind of backpedaled and tried to soften it up--
"They're nice kids and all, but I don't really feel any connection to
them"--don't ask the questions you don't want to hear the answers to,
ya know? Oh, and then as we were walking out the door for Uncle B to
drive me home (waiting for Aunt L to make a pit stop), we were talking
about sineater's bad marriage, and I said something like "I just feel so
bad that the men in our family pick women who treat them so poorly."
and she asked me if I thought she treated Stepdad bad. I said "not
abusive, but I do sometimes think you take him for granted."....I am
too honest. It's bad.

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2962Re: me to J-Law re: yesterday/last night, UB and Mom

 

Feb. 18, 2005

 

 

--- Jennifer DeWitt <jendewitt2000@yahoo.com> wrote:

UB is a fruitcake, and you are exactly right.
People are always going to talk, but if you don't
want to be talked about (as much) don't act like a
spoiled drama queen/freak/whacko/insecure bitch.

I think it is good that you are honest. It is true
that sensitive folks may not like it, but it is a
big virtue to courageously speak the truth.

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Me to J:

UB told me I'm all bark and no bite. I wonder if that means she looks
down on me because I am not physically violent, or what? What the
hell was that even supposed to mean. stupid bitch. I get into some
bizarre mindset when in her presence, sort of fall into her worldview
and stop thinking. Afterwards, it always freaks me out that her
universe is so solidly constructed that you can't see the holes in it
until you're back in your own world....it's creepy as hell. No wonder
sineater believes that _he_ is the one who's done HER wrong, and that he
is the one with problems. sick.

Anyway...I guess you're right about honesty. To me it looks like the
dishonest people are the ones who get places in this world, and the
honest folks get knocked in the dirt. I guess I just have to work on
when/where/how to be honest, and just be quiet the rest of the time.

*sigh*

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2963Re: me to J-Law re: yesterday/last night, UB and Mom

 

Feb. 18, 2005

 

 

--- J-Law wrote:

Yeah, what the hell does that mean? You're right -
whatever it is, it is all about what's going on (or,
not going on) in her own head. I would just ignore
it. She is totally unbalanced, unreliable,
untrustworthy and deceitful. There isn't a single
thing she says that you should take to heart. It is
just another example of her insanity.
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me:

yeah...that's definitely a 'consider the source' type of moment. And,
besides, if she thinks I'm weak/stupid/have no 'bite', it will make
me all the more effective in getting close to sineater again.

*sigh*

I'm very glad it's Friday. Our few days of nice sunny weather just
went away, just in time for the weekend. Yay rain and grey. bleh. I
really wanted to go hiking at Bull Creek park this weekend. Oh well.
I can walk a mall instead, or maybe just stay in bed.

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2966Re: me to J-Law re: yesterday/last night, UB and Mom

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Feb. 18, 2005


--- J-Law wrote:

That's a good point about UB perceiving you as weak,
ineffectual, whatever. Hopefully, this will mean
that she doesn't think any harm to her can come from
you and sineater getting closer.
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me:

One of the things my "anchor in the storm" book says is that if I
want to be an anchor I've got to be consistent. So I think I'll try
to touch bases with sineater once a week, call him Sundays at the same
time each week. And just let him talk about whatever, like we did in
the car. If it gets around to a serious topic, fine, if not, fine.
The important thing is to establish that I'm reliable, and that he's
free and safe to talk to me about anything, no pressure