2939Trip to Houston

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Feb. 14, 2005

 

 

Saturday, round 1, sineater called to say he wouldn't be coming to
HOuston with me after all. "The trailer goes on market Monday and it
isn't ready and it's my fault" Well...who decided when it goes on the
market? How did it become your fault that someone else made an
arbitrary decision which then kept you from being able to do what you
planned on doing this weekend? I didn't say any of that, but I
thought it. I was angry and disappointed, and hten he called again
around 6 and said they'd gotten work done on the trailer so he could
go after all. I met up with them at Central Market, where I was
introduced to her friends, some skinny white trash guy with a pointy
chin and two chubby nothing women and an infant and a little girl.
They left after a while, and then it was just me, sineater, Skye_ds, and
sonar0m, and the bird of course, which was fairly quiet. There was a
band playing on the back patio, called "Mundi Ensemble" The sound was
kind of wretched, but from what I could hear, it was pretty music.
Kind of Enya-ish, maybe? World/celtic/renaissance?

sineater came home with me (he actually remembered to pack for
overnight!) and I went to bed around 10:30. Up 7:30 Sunday, sineater has
become much nicer in the mornings than I remember him being in HS. We
made good time to Houston, didn't really get lost but weren't quite
sure where to go, so we got a map & found our way. Took 2 hours & 15
minutes or so to get to houston, and about an hour to get from the
edge of Houston to Nana's.

I took Mom her bday presents from Aunt L, we visited. Kate brought
Dylan, Stephanie's son, and he played with his gun and then Terri
(Uncle B's ex wife) brought Nana some V-day presents, and her two boys
and the 3 kids played while we visited. Kate and Terri don't like
each other, but they were pleasant. Then Stephanie came over, and mom
& I went and got Taco Cabana for lunch, and by the time we got back
Kate had left & Terri had left with her boys, one of them had
baseball or something, so we ate and visited with Steph, Nana, Dylan,
& Mom. It was really really nice.

Mom & Nana gave us a tour of the yard & showed us the stuff they'd
planted, and Mom gave me some volunteer trees to give to Aunt L, and we
left around 5:15. We got a little lost, and there was construction. I
had to turn around at one point, pulled into a dead end street in a
skeevy neighborhood by I-59, then into a driveway, then backed out of
the driveway, scraped the front bumper on the driveway, adn bonked
the back bumper on a curb and/or a car behind me. ACK. It made a dent
on the back bumper, which Sweetie pushed out for me when I came home. I
really really hope I didn't hurt whatever I hit. I feel guilty, bad,
and cowardly for not getting out and checking. I imagine Advantage
rent a car will be billing me heavily for the damage to the bumper.
When Sweetie got done with it there was a bump and a scuff. Yuck. :( I
haven't done well with cars lately.

Anyway, I took sineater to Rockdale (UB and sonar0m and horses weren't
back from Drandmir yet...I could SO have taken him to G'town and met
up wth them there, but UB said they were leaving G'town soon when he
called her as we were leaving Houston) ANYWAY, I don't really care.
I'm glad sineater was able to come with me, and among the many hours of
talk about music, movies, zoids, transformers, etc, there was
actually a bit of relationship talk, where I was ostensibly talking
about Brother A/Rubber_Pig/Trey but in RL talking about sineater/Skye_ds, too, and
hopefully that penetrated to some level with him. At one point, he
expressed anger and frustration that Trey's family hasn't done shit
about the situation, and why are WE getting stuck with all of this
drama garbage, and I said "Look, they've been dealing with Rubber_Pig for
over 10 years now, and we've only been dealing with her for a little
more than a year...don't you think they've TRIED to help Trey? Maybe
trying to be supportive and make the best of it at first, maybe being
there for him during all their fights and his back and forth of
leaving her and then going back, and then going to trying to rescue
him and saying things like 'we'll do THIS for you if you leave
her'...and after watching him leave and go back time and again,
watching him choose her abuse and her lies over the family's love
again and again...they're worn out, they've had their hearts broken a
million times."...I cried.

I hope it got through. He talked about their last fight, and how
he'd 'lied' and said stuff and then denied saying it, like he used to
do earlier in the relationship, and why was he going back to patterns
that he hadn't done in years and years? [translate: she interpreted
his words a certain way and browbeat him into 'admitting' he actually
said what she only THOUGHT he said or something insane like that]

I suggested that he try harder to remove himself when the abusive
verbal stuff starts, saying I know she's got abandonment issues,
which woudl be triggered by doing that, but better to have her
feeling abandoned than attacking her....I don't think he bought it.

Oh well.

I tried.