1910skate nite

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Feb. 4, 2004

 

So last night I went to Pluckers w/Jaime & Sweetie, then went skating for
an hour. Ms. Pac Man Jeff was there, looking thinner but also
older/wrinkler/haggard. I guess I'm approaching my own time in life
where I can either be plump or haggard. I complimented him on his
weight loss, however.

He got my email add. asked about NK! (I get very tired of being put
on the defensive re: kids) He also asked/assumed/made some statement
re: me being raised in a rural location. (um, no.)...

I should not get offended. He seems well-meaning.

But sales ish. Definitely a sales reptile.

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1912Re: skate nite

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Feb. 4, 2004
Me to J-Law (also in my LJ)

Skate night could have been better, but I *did* get an hour's worth
of exercise, so that's the important part.

There's this guy, Jeff, who I've played Ms. pac man with and we chat
(hi, bye, how were your holidays?, how's work, bla bla--nothing
really personal)

So last night he was just being...offensive. Said something
about "So you were raised somplace rural?"--UM NO. Why would you
assume that?

And asked me about No Kidding (which he does EVERY time I see him),
clarifying YET AGAIN That we are not a group of child-haters, and YET
AGAIN that I am not a child hater myself. (but I still wouldn't
hook up with a divorced dad on a BET, even if I was single.
Yeah, I wanna be your new c-nt-slave and take over raising some
other woman's ovarian trophy. sure. That's my life's dream)

He asked for my email addy, which I gave him, and then he acted
like he couldn't read my handwriting and had me spell it out for
him.

I really don't know if this guy is deliberately an ass, or if he
thinks he's being funny, or is really trying to be nice but is
clueless, or WHAT, but it really ruins my skating experience to
have to deal with him. (he is in sales for some computer
company, quelle surprise that Me and a Sales Reptile would not
mesh well) I need to bring a protective dyke to skate night
next week.

J-Law to me:


Why is it that protective dykes are so much more effective than if
some guy were to get all protective? Maybe its the "total kiss off"
factor, i.e., that the lounge lizard can write you off completely
if he thinks you're a lesbian. Also, there is probably also the
whole unwillingness of the lounge lizard to get in a fight with a
woman, even if she is macho.

Interesting that your lounge lizard is a salesperson. He sounds
utterly repellent, which, you would think, would be bad for sales.

My reply:


The skate-Jeff thing is so wierd. I was thinking exactly your
thoughts re: sales and people skills. Maybe he just does that "rough
& ready, man's man, backslapping good-natured misogyny" thing for
work so much that he doesn't realize it's NOT a thing that works
on the ladies? Or maybe I'm just too sensitive & easy to take
offense. Which is why I gave him my email addy, maybe he's not
really a jerk & I was just reading too much into his seemingly
thoughtless/harmless comments & questions re: my age, childfreedom,
where I was raised, etc.

J-Law:
I don't think you're over sensitive on the Jeff thing. He was being
nosy, disrespectful, and coarse.

me:

I am glad you don't think I was overreacting to Jeff
the Sales Reptile. I only see him at skate night & we
only chat for 5 minutes per skate night, at most,
but...eugh. It is precisely due to that intermittent
nature of our contact that his questions seemed so out
of place.

*sigh* I do need to just get over it, though. He isn't
that important in my life to waste all this stress &
angst over.