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[evile]

Dec. 23, 2004

 

 

evile: thank goodness for short weeks....I'm so ready to get out of
here.
SkyeDS: I bet.
evile: you all ready for your trip?
SkyeDS: lol no
evile: oh well, it'll all get done. stressing is pointless, I've
finally started to learn.
SkyeDS: sineater took the white truck to get the oil changed, to give
sonar0m keys and gas money
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: not like we don't road trip all the time anyway, I could
spend the day packing but I don't want to
evile: yup
SkyeDS: going to Txka for 3 days doesn't even require the thought
that an event does
evile: i can imagine :)
evile: Do y'all want anything from Vegas?
SkyeDS: I can't imagine what to want.
SkyeDS: besides warmer temp of course :P
evile: Ok. I know what kinds of things you like, but really don't
have much clue what sineater or sonar0m would want.
SkyeDS: sineater likes toys.
SkyeDS: toys, books, music
evile: I don't know what kind of toys or what kind of music or what
kind of books anymore.
SkyeDS: but I'm sure he would like anything you gave him because you
gave it to him :)
SkyeDS: I hate to admit after 13 years I'm not a big expert on the
toy thing
SkyeDS: although he keeps bringing home LOTR toys
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: and transformer and gobots
SkyeDS: err zoids rather
SkyeDS: sci fi books I know
SkyeDS: and I think his taste in music is close to yours
evile: that's always been my main prob. with sineater--he buys stuff for
himself that he really wants, and I dont' want to give him stuff he
already has.
SkyeDS: that's why I like gift certs
SkyeDS: I know enough to know where to shop for people, but not what
for
evile: Well, I was thinking more along the lines of stuff you can
only get in vegas, not doing 'real' xmas shopping.
SkyeDS: I thought as much. I have no clue.
SkyeDS: he doesn't collect obvious stuff like s hot glasses or spoons
evile: what T shirt sizes are they?
SkyeDS: sineater = XL, sonar0m = L
SkyeDS: sonar0m = scrawny
evile: ok. thanks :)
SkyeDS: is Sweetie on the road yet?
evile: yup
SkyeDS: :)
evile: I kind of wish he'd kept his travel plans friends-only on LJ.
Now, people know I'm home alone.
SkyeDS: not good
evile: I've kept mine friends only...so we have a short suspect list
if we get broken into over the Xmas weekend.
SkyeDS: I guess it isn't bright of me to have my event calendar
completely public in that light
evile: I had offered sineater crash space if he wanted to let things cool
off at home, but he never got back to me. It wasn't entirely
altruistic, would have been nice to have company/housesitter. Oh
well. I can always ask Aunt L to come by and check on things
SkyeDS: if he had stayed at home he probably would hae stayed here
with the children anyway. although he could have checked once a day
or whatever.
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: last night Chris L suggested that he "take a break" from his
marriage.
evile: Interesting idea.
SkyeDS: and that starting new relationships was a good way to handle
problems in existing relationships
evile: very interesting idea.
SkyeDS: nobody else I know of thinks it's a good idea
evile: but fascinating nonetheless.
SkyeDS: most good poly websites (noel's, veaux's) say exactly the
opposite
SkyeDS: I thought sineater was going to go through the phone and strangle
her
evile: When some married friends of ours had troubles, they lived
apart for about a month and only met up for their counseling
sessions. It seems to have helped.
SkyeDS: I can see that.
SkyeDS: but not the other.
SkyeDS: she seemed to think that both in conjunction were called for
evile: hm
SkyeDS: and that he can just go off and leave the children here for
long periods of time
SkyeDS: while she of course would never do that with her baby.
evile: *shrug*
SkyeDS: and she never once thought to ask how I was after all I went
through
evile: to a lot of people, an adult animal is not the same thign as a
human infant.
SkyeDS: and she puts all this down to a "self image" problem on his
part
SkyeDS: and it will all get better iff he just lets other people make
him feel good.
evile: she was friends with sineater sometime in HS, so she's his friend
first, I guess.
SkyeDS: um no
SkyeDS: he met her because she was roommates with Robin
evile: Oh, OK.
evile: And robin is who?
SkyeDS: one of his former other women
evile: oh ok
evile: so, she still met him first and probably considers him first
and then his family members that she doesn't really know after that.
SkyeDS: you would have been disgusted had you heard her last night
SkyeDS: she was so obvious
evile: *shrug* she is not on my list of top 10 people who have their
shit together
SkyeDS: hopefully last night was the end of it.
evile: she is friends with a few of my friends, but I really haven't
felt much of an urge to get to know her better.
evile: sort of similar, but not the same as how I feel towards
roninjedi.
SkyeDS: if you are trying to keep negative fucked up energy out of
your life, you might think about keeping it that way
evile: I'm related to enough negative fucked up energy, so yeah, I
dont' need to choose friends who are also that way.
SkyeDS: exactly why this irritates me so
SkyeDS: I'm trying to keep my family together
SkyeDS: adn with friends like her trying to "help" I hardly need
enemies
evile: yup
SkyeDS: I want to know where she's going to get the time to "help"
him anyway
SkyeDS: her husband said, any man BUT sineater (and preferably a woman they can
share) and was global thermonuclear about it
SkyeDS: and they have a new baby
SkyeDS: that nearly killed her
evile: well, a lot of people distract themselves from their own
problems by immersing htemselves in their frends' drama.
evile: (have done it enough to recognize it in others)
SkyeDS: I don't suspect you had other ulterior motives
evile: no telling. People who do that also lack a lot of self-
awareness.
SkyeDS: I do not understand the need he has to bring negative fucked
up people into our lives.
SkyeDS: however, maybe this time he really will learn. I am
cautiously optimistic
evile: she's basically given birth to a child who will most likely
have a m iserable short life, and then she's got this useless jealous
man in her life ...so why not meddle in others' lives instead of
dealing with those things which are so painful and personal that she
can't really stand to look at them.
SkyeDS: he is not saying what he's always said before "it's different
this time"
SkyeDS: the baby has refused her breast milk and she's taking it as a
personal insult.
evile: I sympathize, and I'm sorry as hell for her and that poor
kiddo, but I will continue to keep her at arms length. Pleasant
innocuous conversation for the sake of friends we have in common, and
that's about it.
SkyeDS: even though she surely knows it isn't.
evile: with that many genetic defects, I wonder if intolerance for
breast milk isn't one of them?
SkyeDS: I am filing it away under what the hell are people thinking
and leaving it there :)
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: maybe I ought to adopt a no more negative fucked up nasty
pets in the house policy
SkyeDS: you want to play with slime, take it outside
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: ;)
SkyeDS: I hope I'm not being overly optimistic, or for that matter
insane (same thing over and over wanting different results), but I
honestly think he's starting to see now, where he never has before
evile: would be nice.
SkyeDS: brb
evile: ok

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