3430icq w/Sharjinka

[evile]

Aug. 12, 2005

 

 

evile: TGIF, baybee! I don't get to go to the Drandmir thing
tomorrow!! too m uch other crap going on! BOO!
Sharjinka: Oh, I'm sorry. I'll miss you!

evile: yeah...it sounded like a really fun time. :(
Sharjinka: I hope it is. They're putting so much effort into this.
evile: it sounds like it! I hope someone gets a lot of good pictures!
Sharjinka: I hope so too!
evile: I really want to get my cousin Ben out to HFS sometime; I
think he may be too 'cool' to play, but maybe not. He needs more
friends his own age; he's spent his whole summer with me & my sweetie
& our friends, and my aunt & uncle.
Sharjinka: You might be right there....
evile: He is into this "I'm a stud, I want to be a Dom when I grow
up" phase..it's really cute.
Sharjinka: Really? That is adorable.
evile: heehee. He wants me to take him to GWNN and Voyagers stuff.
*sigh* What is it about me that brings everyone's freak side out in
the open???
Sharjinka: What's Voyagers?
evile: It's kind of an 'intro' group, or at least that's how it was
started.
Sharjinka: Oh. :-)
evile: kind of a less structured group than SAADE, but where you can
still learn new stuff & meet potential mentors in the scene.
evile: there's another group called 'TNG' which is for people 18-35.
That might be a good resource,too. I am trying very hard to be
the 'cool cousin'...give him a safe place to talk about stuff and
learn things, so he will be safe.
Sharjinka: I can understand that.
evile: I feel pretty awkward at times, but I keep trying to be
like "Ok, that's cool, people feel that way and people do that, and
it's normal and OK fo r you to want to try that."
Sharjinka: :)
evile: thank god I am not a parent. It's challenging enough to think
of a more distant relative as sexually active, I could not handle
thinking of my own children that way.
Sharjinka: Yeah...my nieces have years to go until that happens. I'm
already worried.
evile: *nod* And you are going to be the 'cool aunt' who gets allll
the questions, I'm sure.
Sharjinka: I hope not!
evile: they grow up SO fast. My friend has a 12 year old who is
already drawing her own anime characters that have a BDSM aspect to
their costumes & their little stories that she makes up to go with
them.
evile: I imagine I'll be taking her to her first Voyagers or GWNN
event in 6 yrs.
Sharjinka: Oh, boy. Won't that be fun? ;-)
evile: scary. But...I would rather know that she is in a safe place,
with people who will show her the right way to play.
Sharjinka: I agree.
evile: OH! Skye and 'the boys' came to poly dinner last night.I was
so glad that Meg needed us to walk her to Opal's, it was a good
excuse to leave. I love sineater, but I hate the twitchy, mumbly ,
subservient way he acts around her.
Sharjinka: I agree. Why does he accept that sort of treatment?
evile: *shrug* He really has very little self-esteem.
Sharjinka: I dropped a VERY subtle hint in my LJ. Said something
about treating people the way I like to be treated.
evile: *nod* I saw that.
Sharjinka: Too bad it's not picked up on.
evile: It's bizarre; she can take offense at 20 paces, from something
that isn't aimed at her, or meant as offense, but can't take hints on
proper behavior for anything!
Sharjinka: I've noticed that. I even said something to her once
about sonar0m. She snapped at him for something and I said in my best
shocked voice. "There's no reason to answer him like that!"
evile: good for you :)
Sharjinka: I just was all shocked and surprised and she told me it
was okay to talk to him like that. "Well...I guess if he accepts it,
okay....but .....I don't let people talk to me like that."
evile: sad.
Sharjinka: Yeah...I thought so too. She completely missed what I was
getting at.
evile: but you hit it exactly--he permits himself to be treated that
way. Maybe he doesn't know any better, but that's still his choice.
Sharjinka: True.
evile: that's why she gets 'em young, I think. Because they really
haven't had enough experience to know that isn't a normal way to be
treated in a relationship.
Sharjinka: Yes, I noticed that. I do think it's a shame and it
drives me a bit crazy...
evile: yeah...gamer & geek groups seem to be very vulnerable to
sexual predators.
Sharjinka: Yes.... Poor not socially adept guys. *sigh*
evile: yup. but, the good news is that voyagers, gwnn, and poly are
all groups with pretty savvy, experienced people, and she can't get a
foothold anywhere
Sharjinka: That's good news. :-) I'll be back in a bit. Taking a
late lunch. :-D