3156icq w/ skye

[evile]

 

 

 

Apr. 25, 2005

 

 

evile: hi :) How was your weekend?
SkyeDS: awesome (even though I sprained my ankle - at home - not at
the event)
SkyeDS: how was yours?
evile: very good :)
SkyeDS: Bridget is the new KEO.
evile: did that happen this weekend?
SkyeDS: and I have come to the conclusion that the adversariality
between Bridget and I would not exist to the extent it does now if
others (namely Karen) weren't deliberately meddling
evile: that sucks.
SkyeDS: Karen and Patrick Michael (the Earl Marshal now, and Randy's
Knight) wanted Randy to be the new KEO
SkyeDS: I am more qualified to be KEO than Randy for fucks sake, and
he knows that, and he told them no.
SkyeDS: Karen wants Randy to have official title (other than court
baron, which he already is)
evile: Why didn't Karen try for the title?
SkyeDS: so now Karen is going around saying Randy is Deputy KEO and
that he and Bridget are going to turn the Equestrians completely
upside down in every way
SkyeDS: ROFL
SkyeDS: that's a joke right/
SkyeDS: ?
evile: oh boy.
SkyeDS: the reality is that Randy volunteered to help, he is not a
deputy, and the changes that are in the works are necessary and good
SkyeDS: so as usual, Karen took the smallest grain of truth possible
and fleshed it out completely with lies.
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: anyway, this weekend was awesome, and I am going to call (not
email) Bridget personally and offer an olive branch.
evile: That sounds like a good plan.
SkyeDS: bought a plantation saddle from Bridget and Gideon for $150
(it cost more than $1K new)
evile: wow, how awesome!
SkyeDS: Sineater wanted to get me a saddle for my birthday even though I
keep telling him I don't need one, and you couldn't get a good used
western saddle for that anymore, not for the last ten years or so
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: what did you do this weekend?
evile: went to see Chadd Thomas on Friday night, went to Yoga & a
wedding Saturday, and then weenie dog races Sunday.
SkyeDS: :)
SkyeDS: Laura has a friend with a dachsund/doberman cross
evile: oh my.
evile: I wrote about my weekend in my LJ.
evile: I was sorry to miss Robie's party, but we just had too much
fun at the wedding, I didn't have enough energy afterwards to go
anywhere else.
SkyeDS: I haven't gotten around to LJ yet, busy
evile: *nod*
evile: I am now hearing/reading that Robie's party was infested with
running, screaming, jumping-on-furniture children. so probably for
the best that I didn't make it!
SkyeDS: nodnod
evile: there were kids at the wedding, but they had a nursery with a
sitter to leave the kids there during the ceremony, and then
afterwards all the kids came out to eat and have cake and dance, and
the parents were all very involved, so the kids were good.
evile: I was glad the weather decided to be decent--they had the
ceremony out behind the refectory building.
SkyeDS: behavior of kids almost always reflection of behavior of
parents methinks
SkyeDS: I told you about that event where this gorgeous big black
woman came sailing under the Eq pavilion right
SkyeDS: without her brass hat (but with a retinue of women calling
her Your Grace)
evile: I don't think so.
SkyeDS: this big black beautiful woman with Presence came sailing
under the Eq pavilion where i was doing bird duty while the boys were
out playing on the listfield
SkyeDS: and she demanded to know where I was, in a tone that gave me
the impression I was in trouble again (she wasn't wearing her brass
but her retinue was calling her Your Grace - makes her a duchess -
been queen at least twice)
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: so I meekly presented myself, a nd she complimented me on my
horses and my bird, and said that their happiness and good behavior
had to reflect upon their owner/trainer, and she had asked the boys
who that was, and they had referred her to me
evile: aw.
SkyeDS: so she had come to seek me out to give me compliments on my
children
SkyeDS: turns out she is a Duchess of the East Kingdom (NYC), and a
professional domme
SkyeDS: puts her comments in more interesting perspective, to me at
least.
SkyeDS: Karen is always critical of the way we behave around brass
hats, but I think we do just fine, since all the brass hats we've
ever been around were pleased with us (the East Kingdom duchess,
several duchesses at War, at least two baronesses and the Trimaris
Queen)
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: I didn't mean to digress, but in the vein of children and
parents and all
evile: yup, I gotcha :)
SkyeDS: one time I said I didn't want to bring kids into the world as
it is now, and I was told, well, that leaves nobody but the people
who have no business breeding, to be breeding
evile: *nod*
evile: I'm fine with my status as a non-breeder, and fine with the
world going to hell in a handbasket because all the stupid people
bred and used up the worlds resources with entitlement-minded
gimmegimme bullshit
evile: they're the ones getting birth defects and syndromes because
they insist on driving big cars and using disposable diapers...I got
mine, fuck the future.
SkyeDS: there is not one but there are two nanny shows on the
networks now
SkyeDS: must be popular
evile: revolting.
SkyeDS: one of them is good and one is revolting. I would buy the
book written by the good one for Justina but I doubt it would do any
good.
evile: nope.
evile: My new Buddhist Path: "compassionate avoidance"
SkyeDS: sounds like what Dr. Dyer says about offering up a silent
prayer but then avoiding the source of negative energy
evile: Ok. I just made it up, but tha'ts a nicer way to think about
it, for sure.
SkyeDS: compassionate avoidance is a perfect pair of just two words
to encapsulate what he spent a long paragraph on.
evile: cool.
evile: Nicer than saying "you're fucked up, your life is fucked up, I
can't stand to watch you or listen to you, but I don't actually hate
you"
SkyeDS: people who think we hate them are really egocentric, I have
concluded, to think that they are the center of our existence that
way, or worth the energy
evile: *nod*
evile: nope, just because you disgust and horrify me does not mean I
actually have enough energy to devote to hating you...
evile: (generic 'you')
SkyeDS: I figgered
evile: Kulilinei was halfway trying to talk herself/us into being friends
with a certain person in poly group...but I told her 'something about
that woman just pushes my buttons and puts my defenses up. I dont'
want to spend time with her. I will be nice if I have to, but I dont'
want to spend time with her"
evile: "oh, but she says she's working on her shit!"
well, fine, let her work on it, that's a good thing, but in the
meantime I really dont' care to be an audience member in the Great
and Wonderful Z Show.
SkyeDS: all of my friends don't need to be friends, nor do they need
to dislike whom I dislike (I don't like the word enemy anymore)
evile: *nod* That's pretty much where I'm at with it. If this person
comes to a public girls night, or one at Kulilinei's place, I'll be
civil, but that's as far as it goes.
SkyeDS: I am strongly opinionated, you are strongly opinionated, and
so are most of our friends. Lots of fodder for rubbing the wrong way.
evile: *nod*
evile: You just have to enjoy people for what you have in common, and
try to avoid the things that end up rubbing wrong, is all.
SkyeDS: perfection is not possible, but striving for it is what counts
evile: everyone wants love and approval and respect....
evile: it's just that what they ask for/expect/demand as
demonstrations of love/approval/respect can seem to be contradictory,
pathological, or just plain abusive.
SkyeDS: if you want something from me, ask for it straight up, ask -
not demand.
SkyeDS: I respect your right to ask, and expect that my right to say
no be respected as well
evile: so people who's expectations of love/approval/respect feel
abusive, contradictory, or pathological, I will avoid.
SkyeDS: (although how often do I do that, fer crying out loud)
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: I tested enfp today. Usually it's entj (I think)
SkyeDS: but, I am a double gem for crying out loud, so I fall right
in the middle of at least half those questions, and it was all one
way or the other, no middle ground
evile: *nod*
SkyeDS: don't believe I would be good as an MOH. I'll stick to
piano/vocals.
evile: *nod* I took a lot of mental notes this weekend
SkyeDS: lol @ CL "why do some people think it's really all about
them?"
evile: *grin*
evile: Did you see my reply?
evile: probably a little too subtle.
SkyeDS: lol
SkyeDS: afk brb

•