evile

Aug. 18, 2003

Some of these seem legit. Some just seem like...you are a human who
must interact with other humans, and these are the consequences of
being a person with a life...

-My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you

-My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from
you

-Your struggle affects my serenity. My mental attention focuses on
solving your problems/relieving your pain

-My mental attention is focused on you

-My mental attention is focused on protecting you

-My mental attention is focused on manipulating you to do it my way

-My self-esteem is bolstered by solving your problems

-My self-esteem is bolstered by relieving your pain

-My own hobbies/interests are put to one side. My time is spent
sharing your hobbies/interests

-Your clothing and personal appearance are dictated by my desires and
I feel you are a reflection of me

-Your behavior is dictated by my desires and I feel you are a
reflection of me

-I am not aware of how I feel. I am aware of how you feel.

-I am not aware of what I want - I ask what you want.

-I am not aware - I assume

-The dreams I have for my future are linked to you

-My fear of rejection determines what I say or do

-My fear of your anger determines what I say or do

-I use giving as a way of feeling safe in our relationship

-My social circle diminishes as I involve myself with you

-I put my values aside in order to connect with you

-I value your opinion and way of doing things more than my own

-The quality of my life is in relation to the quality of yours