A very delayed light bulb

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09-09-2016 at 03:52 PM (27 Views)

I finally realized a really crucial difference between 'normal' and 'CB' --their win/lose/always right mentality. It's not just that. 

I mean, nobody wants to lose or be wrong, but where the CB goes off into Crazy-land is not the fact that she's a sore loser, it's the fact that in a situation with a CB, it gets to a point where she just doesn't care whether she wins, her goal becomes making sure her 'enemy' loses. It doesn't matter if she burns down her own house in the process, it doesn't matter if she makes herself look bad, it doesn't matter if she ruins her entire life...as long as her enemy suffers. This really stood out in the CB Lawyer couple story, and once I saw it there, it was easier to see the pattern in less dramatic situations from the news and in real life, personal history, etc. 

Normal You and Me might lose and feel bad, but we'd go on about our lives...CB cannot do that. She will shoot herself in the foot repeatedly, as long as she thinks it's hurting YOU. Normal You and Me might go to great lengths to win...but we can never go to the depths that a CB will go to punish a person (for being right, for winning, whatever) and make them LOSE.