Don't get sidetracked.

Whether they meant it.
If they were only joking.
Whether you deserved it.
If you misunderstood
Whether you need to 'lighten up,'
If maybe you're 'just too sensitive'

The real one will only care that you are in pain
and want to help.

No  blame and shame
No who did what to whom
first, worst, most, always, never

They will see hurt
and offer comfort.

They will see confusion
and try for understanding

Fix the problem
Not fix the blame


The end.