I did not find the trial ‘enjoyable’ in the least. I kinda have to wonder about anyone who would describe the trial as enjoyable or entertaining. There seems to be a blurred perception regarding these people's acting roles and their real lives as human beings.
This is a sad situation in which an older, insecure (probably codependent) man chose a young and beautiful (but also possibly narcissistic) shallow manipulative & greedy woman as a spouse and it all went horribly wrong (as codependent/narcissist relationships tend to do). T
Turned out she was abusive and personality disordered as well as a user. Turned out they were both substance abusers. Turns out that his family of origin upbringing made him predisposed to choose and try to stay with an abuser. They both said horrible, unforgivable things to one another—called each other hurtful names that hammered on the insecurities of each person. He called her a bad name for a sex worker and made horrible comments about her sexual parts. She mocked his manhood and inability to perform. They called each other ‘fat’ and ‘washed up’ and each told the other they’d never make another successful movie. She was physically violent and verbally abusive. He was verbally abusive. The things we, the public, heard and saw about these people are terrible things that, to me, revealed them as both very distressingly unlikeable people.
All of this , to me, is family dirty laundry that, even though the two people involved are celebrities and public figures, is distasteful to have out in public. These things were private matters. They are none of our business.
The fact that so many fans have jumped on the respective AH/JD bandwagons to dissect, rehash, and badmouth one party or the other and attack the other's fandoms is also a real trainwreck to observe. Like, what does any of this have to do with YOU, and why do you think the celebrity is worth so much of your time and effort to defend or attack? What possible outcome are you looking for in all of that? JD/AH doesn't know who you are and likely never will. They're not going to date you or love you, so what is the deal? It's just ridiculous and awful,and I really hate to see the specifics of this case applied as generalities to badmouth and discredit the 'me too' movement, feminism, the reality of female-on-male abuse, etc.
I know that the issue of female on male domestic abuse is an issue that does not receive the serious consideration it should in our society, and for that alone I’m grateful that this trial took place in a public forum. But, overall, it tainted my enjoyment of any movie that Depp was in or will ever be in, and makes me never want to see Heard in any movie, ever.
I did not enjoy watching the trial and I feel sick and dirty for being a witness to so much of what should have stayed private between them, or handled by law enforcement and the courts when things escalated from marital arguments to violence and abuse. Yes, of course I could have chosen not to watch, so being drawn in by the drama to the point where I watched it even though it made me feel sick is my fault. It was not enjoyable to watch. It was, however, very addictive.
I feel sick and sad for them both. I hope they get help with their substance addiction problems and with their defects of character that made them vulnerable to such a sick personal relationship dynamic as they had with each other.
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