Quora: Can a narcissist be a female without laying hands on anyone?

yes. There are female narcissists.  You can search Quora using the search term “female narcissist”

Quora

https://www.quora.com/search?q=female%20narcissist

 

and find that many people have written about the peculiar qualities of a woman with narcissistic personality disorder.

There are also female abusers. 

Not all narcissists are physically abusive to their targets. In fact, I would say that many, if not most, female narcissists are especially good at verbal, emotional, and financial abuse, as opposed to using brute force physical violence against their targets.

The wounds received from being verbally, emotionally, spiritually or financially  abused can last much longer and take much longer to uncover and heal, as these types of wounds can end up becoming part of the victim’s reality or self-concept—believing  that you are worthless, unloveable, socially awkward, stupid, ‘going to Hell’ etc. can become so engrained in how you view yourself that you may not even realize these things are lies that were placed in your head by an abuser, rather than true things about yourself.

Not to mention, it is harder to get anyone to believe or support you when you have no physical wounds to show as evidence of being abused. And if you are a ‘big strong man’ who has been abused by a ‘little woman’ then you will really face a lot of difficulties being believed and finding resources and support in your community, sad to say.

The first step is realizing that you are in a relationship with a toxic person, regardless of diagnosis. If someone is not treating you with kindness, you have the right to leave that relationship. It does not have to reach a point of ‘laying hands’— other forms of abuse are just as toxic and damaging, if not more so.

 

 

Types and Signs of Abuse

It has been estimated that roughly two-thirds of those harming a vulnerable adult are family members, most often the victim’s adult child or spouse. Research has shown that in most instances the abuser is financially dependent on the vulnerable adult’s resources and have problems related to alcohol and drugs. Stay alert to the different types of abuse The word abuse covers many different ways someone may harm a vulnerable adult. Physical abuse is intentional bodily injury. Some examples include slapping, pinching, choking, kicking, shoving, or inappropriately using drugs or physical restraints. Signs of physical abuse . Sexual abuse is nonconsensual sexual contact (any unwanted sexual contact). Examples include unwanted touching, rape, sodomy, coerced nudity, sexual explicit photographing. Signs of sexual abuse . Mental mistreatment or emotional abuse is deliberately causing mental or emotional pain. Examples include intimidation, coercion, ridiculing, harassment, treating an adult like a child, isolating an adult from family, friends, or regular activity, use of silence to control behavior, and yelling or swearing which results in mental distress. Signs of emotional abuse . Exploitation occurs when a vulnerable adult or his/her resources or income are illegally or improperly used for another person's profit or gain. Examples include illegally withdrawing money out of another person’s account, forging checks, or stealing things out of the vulnerably adult’s house. Signs of exploitation . Neglect occurs when a person, either through his/her action or inaction, deprives a vulnerable adult of the care necessary to maintain the vulnerable adult’s physical or mental health. Examples include not providing basic items such as food, water, clothing, a safe place to live, medicine, or health care. Signs of neglect . Self-neglect occurs when a vulnerable adult fails to provide adequately for themselves and jeopardizes his/her well-being. Examples include a vulnerable adult living in hazardous, unsafe, or unsanitary living conditions or not having enough food or water. Signs of self-neglect . Abandonment occurs when a vulnerable adult is left without the ability to obtain necessary food, clothing, shelter or health care. Examples include deserting a vulnerable adult in a public place or leaving a vulnerable adult at home without the means of getting basic life necessities. Signs of abandonment . Signs of physical abuse bruises, black eyes, welts, lacerations, and rope marks broken bones open wounds, cuts, punctures, untreated injuries in various stages of healing broken eyeglasses/frames, or any physical signs of being punished or restrained laboratory findings of either an overdose or under dose medications individual's report being hit, slapped, kicked, or mistreated vulnerable adult's sudden change in behavior the caregiver's refusal to allow visitors to see a vulnerable adult alone Signs of sexual abuse bruises around the breasts or genital area unexpla

https://www.dshs.wa.gov/altsa/home-and-community-services/types-and-signs-abuse

 

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