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In the early days of the relationship with the narcissist, they will be ‘idealizing’ you, their target. They will be telling you that you are the most wonderful, perfect person they have ever met. No one has ever understood them the way you do. No one has ever made them feel the way you do. This stage may include fierce declarations of love and over-the-top statements like“I would kill or die for you!” and “I will protect you from this terrible world!” and all sorts of other cliche nonsense—stuff you would see and hear in romance books and chick-flick movies. It is nonsense.
As time passes, the narc will eventually devalue and discard you and laugh in your face if you remind them that they once said you were wonderful, perfect, and that they’d kill or die for you, or that they wanted to be your true-blue protector.
If a narcissist tries to involve you with a criminal activity such as murder, he or she may tell you that they are protecting you, or that they did it for you, but the truth is that they did it for themselves. The person they destroy, murder, slander, etc. is a threat to *them* and the narc could care less about you.
Your complicity in their criminal activity will then become a ‘hook’ they can use to control you with, a blackmail threat, and finally they will more than likely blame you for it if they ever get caught and you will do the time for their crime.
In general, do not trust people who use these kind of ‘romance novel’ over-the-top dramatic declarations, especially if you have not been seeing them for very long. The type of person who uses that kind of overly dramatic language is likely to be trouble, if not actually personality disordered. It’s very immature, at the least.
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