Quora: Suppose you are making non-contact with the narcissist. Could a person unknown to you

Suppose you are making non-contact with the narcissist. Could a person unknown to you but who knows the narcissist and views all of your Instagram stories be a "flying monkey" who is spying on you on the narcissist's orders?

 

It is a good bet that a narcissist has spies or is using a fake email identity to sneak around and check up on you after a discard; after all, she or he wants to make sure that your life is miserable without him or her, and the narc wants to make sure you are suffering and devastated. They will take credit for every bad thing that happens to you and happily say that you deserve every bit of pain and unhappiness in your life. If you mention him or her by name in your social media ‘friends only’ posts that is like Christmas and the Fourth of July all mixed together—the narc will feel important and powerful knowing that they take up so much space in your mind and your life, without having to lift a finger or do a thing to manipulate you, you are doing it to yourself in their name. This makes the narc very very happy!

For this reason, and many others, it’s best to limit your social media presence as much as you can, and do not make any public posts about anything personal. You may also need to go through your contacts or ‘friends’ list to remove mutual acquaintances and people you don’t know in Real Life.

In the end, the words of Oscar Wilde still have a great deal of truth: Living well is the best revenge. Do not give your ex narc any satisfaction. Don’t talk about them, don’t post about them, and try not to even think about them. Cultivate better friendships, and give your energy to the pursuit of your own self improvement. Learn to paint or knit, take fitness classes, volunteer with a group that has values aligned with your own, become a regular at the library and read some good literature. Take walks. Listen to music that makes you happy. Keep your mind and body healthy and busy and soon you will have a life that you love, and that the narcissist envies from afar (not that you will care anymore)

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Quora: Are narcissists possessed by some kind of low energy demon?

Are narcissists possessed by some kind of low energy demon? Science can't explain everything. contrary, how would the light be okay with letting an innocent child get possessed?

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Narcissism is an organic brain defect or a result of early life trauma. There is no supernatural aspect to this disorder. The fact that science has not advanced to the point where all aspects of human behavior can be explained by biological or physiological analysis is NOT proof that there is some big Woo-Woo out there sending demons to torture children. Such a “god” or a “light” would not then be worthy of worship, in my opinion.

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