general updatey-ness

 Thanksgiving came and went; had a couple of far-away family come in for the holiday. My mom who lives in IN and my cousin who lives in OR. it was nice to see everyone but I didn't do my usual thing of driving over to my aunt & uncles (where everyone was staying) during every waking non work moment, making myself constantly 100% available to them & neglecting my home, husband, and pets in the meantime. I let them call me when anything was happening or when they wanted me to come over. It made me anxious and whatnot but I guess that's what healthier boundaries look and feel like.

My mom was not as high-energy as she usually is when she visits. Her knees were giving her trouble so she was moving slow. I have one of those right now too, so I was moving slow also.   My cousin hadn't been back to TX in a couple years since he moved out of state, so he wanted to catch up with EVERYONE...I didn't see a lot of him, he was running the roads and staying out late every night with different friends. I hope he had a good time. Whenever I'd come back to Austin or TX after my far-flung adventures, fewer and fewer of my old friends had time or space for me anymore; it's a hard and sad lesson to learn..outgrowing old friends, or old friends outgrowing you, and the space you used to have in their lives just grows closed after some time away and there isn't a 'you shaped space' in their life anymore for you to come back to.  

Started a new work from home job Monday. it's my first full time work-from-home (previous WFH positions have been 20-30 hours, which I find I prefer.)  and it is hard to get used to just being sedentary for so long. I think once we are out of training and just doing straight production, I'll do better. Listen to music and/or podcasts, set a timer to keep me on-task and also make sure I do get up and stretch on the off-chance that I go into 'the zone' and just forget to take a break for too long (it happens) . And maybe I'll end up getting a desk that goes back and forth from standing to sitting if need be.

I read a nauseating self-serving ' poor me' story recently that has me pondering.

1.  how do abusive assholes manage to see and portray themselves as the victim in every situation and
2.  the statistic of 1 in 3 abused children growing up to be abusers is interesting to me, 
   

but not for the 1 who becomes an abuser. That seems like a no-brainer, you model the behavior you experienced growing up. I'm more interested in the 2 who don't.  What happened in their lives that showed them that the way the adults in their lives treated them was NOT the way they were supposed to grow up and treat others? 

Anyhoo....that's life lately.