Apr. 30th, 2021

evile: (mask)
How do you explain the lifetime of trauma you have survived to someone who could very well be a narcissist?
 



I would not do this if I were you.

If the person is a narcissist, you are basically handing them a map to each and every one of your triggers—your vulnerabilities, the things that hurt you, the things they can use to manipulate your emotions and cause you pain. It would be like walking up to a rough-looking stranger on the bad side of town and handing them a gun.

What’s more: a narcissist is never going to care about you. A normal person may hear you speaking about a loss or a trauma and have feelings of empathy, caring, perhaps even feel some protective feelings towards your wounds. A narcissist will not be moved. She or he may say the right caring words but they don’t feel the feelings that go along with those words. They don’t care about other people, they cannot be moved to care about other people by hearing about your trauma in detail. It’s just not possible to force them to feel any depth of emotion, they are simply not capable.

The person to help with your trauma is not another abuser; it is a therapist, a clergy person, a psychologist, counselor, or psychiatrist.

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evile: (mask)
Is it wrong of me to pretend to give up control to the narcissist just so I can take it away from them? I enjoy the look of injury in her eyes each time I do this.
 


I wonder which of the people in the relationship is the true narcissist. Normal people do not psychologically torture their loved ones. Get out of this relationship if it’s making you behave in such a sociopathic fashion. Yuck.

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