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If a narcissist doesn't deny or comment on accusations you made, does that mean you are correct in making them?

Not necessarily; there are many reasons a person would not respond to accusations made by someone.

The narcissist may have discarded you and is working on their other lines of supply.

You may have made the accusations in a forum that you assume the narcissist sees, hears, or reads, but the narcissist has not seen, heard, or read them. You may have made these accusations to mutual friends or family members who don’t care to repeat gossip and cause drama, so have not gone to the alleged narcissist with your slander.

Maybe your accusations were just so ridiculous and unbelievable that the person feels they’re not worth commenting upon.

Perhaps the person you are calling narcissist may not be a narcissist, they may just be a normal person who doesn’t need or want drama from you.

I think there are better questions to ask in a situation where you are badmouthing another person.

Why you are doing this?
What do you hope to gain or win from making these accusations?
Where and How did you make these accusations?
Did you confront the person directly with something and watched them laugh in your face, walk away, or ignore you?
Did you bring your concerns to law enforcement (if what they did was illegal) or the person’s employer (if it concerned workplace misconduct)?
Did you make these accusations to members of a group or community to whom you and the narcissist both belong?
Did you take your accusations to the narcissist’s family members?
What response were you looking for when you brought these accusations?
Were you trying to get him or her fired from her job, excommunicated from their church, removed from a community organization, shunned from a social group, scolded by their family?
What was the end result that you wanted and did not get from making these accusations?

I feel some self-examination here would be wise—what exactly did you want to get out of this situation?

True narcissists thrive on drama and conflict. A real narcissist would likely be willing to throw down and get into it with you if you offered disagreeable commentary on the weather. So, to me, the fact that you brought accusations of some sort to a person’s attention and they didn’t care to respond suggests to me that the person you are calling a narcissist may not be a narcissist at all. I suggest you might be in the wrong in this situation.

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