Quora: How can we hold narcissists accountable for the awful things that they do if they are litera

How can we hold narcissists accountable for the awful things that they do if they are literally incapable of dealing with their realities?

 


Your power is in your presence; if a person is not capable of treating you with kindness and respect, you remove your presence from their lives.

If, for some reason, you feel you must keep this person in your life, basically you have a toddler for the rest of your life, or the rest of his/her life.

Practice saying things like, “If you are going to keep yelling at me, I am going to leave the room” and “Your behavior isn’t inviting me to admire you right now,” and “I don’t think you are making a very good choice here,”

Stay neutral, they feed off of your emotional response.

We are human beings, emotions are often very powerful and overwhelming. We cannot control what we feel or how we feel, but we can ALWAYS choose our behavior.

You may have some luck reminding your narcissist of this fact, but I’m saying it to remind YOU of this fact. The only person you have control over is yourself.

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