A blog entry making its way round FB.

So, several of my friends have reposted this.

I don't think hating yourself or your body is ever the answer, but at the same time I know people who have health problems directly related to their weight, diet, and sedentary habits. It's not a fat vs thin thing, though, it's a love yourself and have the best life you can thing. And, yes, I know that some medical conditions cause weight gain, the same as some people's overweight causes their medical conditions. It can be a vicious cycle. So it's never cool to judge, and besides which, hating and shaming people isn't generally a good way to win friends and influence people.

I don't think you can hate yourself thin or hate yourself beautiful, and I don't think you should try. A couple years ago I hated myself and wanted to die, could not sleep, could not eat, and lost 23 ish pounds. I'm sure I looked GREAT, but I don't recommend, seriously.

I'm all about self acceptance, no matter who you are, no matter what you're wearing, or shoving in your face.... Whether your choices are healthy or not, whether or not you have a chronic illness, whatever. Hating yourself isn't going to fix that.

So, yeah, love those rolls.

Just...realize that those rolls don't love you, necesarily. Yes, there ARE health conditions which are created and exacerbated by weight. I'm sorry if that makes you mad, but it's true.

And there are those of us fat girls who are healthier than you are; myself for one. I don't have a single health problem that is related to my weight, and I don't take any meds on any regular basis. I'm not on antidepressants, blood pressure meds, cholesterol meds, or any other thing. No diabetes. No migraines. No PCOS. Nothin. I can run around the block, climb Enchanted Rock, carry heavy things, whatever. Probably not FAST, but whatever. I can do it. I'm built for comfort and endurance.

So...where do I fall on the 'fat acceptance' thing? I still don't really know. I try not to be judgy of other people, and certainly never out loud. It's their business, and I don't know anything about their health or life choices and even if I did, it still wouldn't be my business. I am sometimes not happy with my appearance or my weight. But that's not really anyone's business but mine. I don't care what Society thinks of me, I just know that I liked the way I look better when I was 20-60 lbs lighter than I am now. And it's certainly easier and more fun to shop for clothes when you're a smaller size. And even then I had my bad days. Just like now, most of the days are good days. But sometimes I look in the mirror and go, "ew". Same as everybody, I think. But sometimes I am happy with my body, and I'm totally healthy. So, yes, there ARE fat people who are healthy AND happy with themselves. I'm sorry if THAT makes you mad, but it's true.

I don't care if hot guys want to fuck me. That isn't how I measure my worth as a human being. And it makes me extremely sad and angry and sick that it seems most women still measure their own worth in terms of what they have to offer a man. Being objectified is dehumanizing and awful. Objectifying yourself is sad and awful. Treating other people or yourself as meat is nasty and offensive and it should stop.

And if you pick me up while hugging me, I will f-in KRAV you. I don't like it, so don't do it.

10 questions

Stolen from emmainfiniti

Answer the 10 questions here!


1. What is your favorite word?
AWESOME

2. What is your least favorite word?
Moist

3. What turns you on creatively, spiritually or emotionally?
spending time with friends, Nature, planning adventures, having adventures, making jewelry, running around renfaires singing my fool head off, wearing costumes, helping people find other people who share interests or who can help each other do stuff. Hugs, snuggling, Travel. Toobin'. Cooking. Road trips.

4. What turns you off?
People who are deliberately cruel. People who are ignorant and try to tell me what to do anyway. People who manipulate others instead of being direct about what they want or need. People who won't be honest with themselves and/or others. I also hate it when people assume the worst of me. There is NEVER going to be a time when I do something wrong or cruel on purpose. (and yet I am human and I do make mistakes. So I do things that are wrong, hurtful, and stupid.)

5. What is your favorite curse word?
Fuck

6. What sound or noise do you love?
Water, fire, wind in pine trees, birds, laughter, music

7. What sound or noise do you hate?
People clearing their throats or snorting up mucus (just blow your nose, for the love of heaven!), machinery, people screaming or whining.

8. What profession other than your own would you like to attempt?
NO idea. (If I knew, wouldn't I be doing it?)

9. What profession would you not like to do?
Anything with math or computers.

10. If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the Pearly Gates?
Here's your dad.