ErikaJournal 2/4/2003

 

 

1174 e got laid off

 

 

 

 

From: E
To: e
Subject: Re: I just got laid off
Date: Mon, 3 Feb 2003 09:45:23 -0800 (PST)
*hugs* Oh, sweetheart! I'm so sorry to hear that!!
That totally sucks!
I will start keeping an eye out for postings you might want to try.
Do you need help finding a roommate or roommates to help with your
house payment?
Let me know what I can do to help!
--- e wrote: ---------------------------------
thanks so much. currently my friend grant is living here. he just
got back from the peace corps so he is not working & not paying so
for now I am paying all the bills. thanks for the link, I registered
for unemployment but I think I need to register to work? what is the
link for that? I sent out two resumes, just to ppl I know, please
tell me what I need to do now for TWC? thanks
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my reply:

I'm really sorry, but I don't work on that side of the TWC 'house'. I
have NO idea how to file for unemployment or register for work...I
really don't. I am hoping there is an 800# for you to call and speak
to someone in the tele-center who can help you with any more
questions.

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me to Jen:
I am beating myself in the head this a.m.: e got laid off
yesterday and asked me for advice on how to file for unemployment. I
told her I didn't know anything about that part of TWC, but sent her
the general TWC website. She wrote back and said thanks, and then
said something about how she thought she needed a different web site
to register for work,and would I send her that web address, please?
OK...what part of "I don't do that, and I don't know anything about
that part of TWC" is so damned hard for someone with a fricken'
MASTERS degree to understand? I replied nicely, said again I was
sorry, but I didn't have any experience at all in that side of
the "house" and told her that maybe there's an 800# listed on the TWC
website to call? I have no clue. I don't do that. No good deed goes
unpunished. Try to help and get all sucked in with a buncha stupid
questions I can't answer. :( I am sure you get that kind of thing all
the time, with people asking you questions about specialized areas of
the law you haven't ever worked with...it's very frustrating. Not
that you don't WANT to help, but...you just don't know the answer, ya
know? And it's always better to admit that you have no clue rather
than give bad information. At least that's what I think.

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175 feh

 

• Feb. 4, 2003

 

so....all my friends have gone high-maintenance apparently; X with
her ridiculous Pace-groping drama and losing her rrr paperwork (which
I wanted to send off LAST MONTH), wah wah. e with her RL problems
of having just bought a house, getting laid off and supporting a
deadbeat roommie. J with her house-buying stuff.

I stayed up too late Saturday for Pace's party. I got up fairly early
for the play on Sunday. I stayed up too late Sunday for Spike & Mike.
I stayed up too late last night because J called at 9, just as I
was settling down to read a bit and go to sleep early, and we talked
until almost 11:30.

I am fucking exhausted. I don't have anything to give them or do for
them...I just don't.

annnd Tom's pager went off just before 6 this a.m....*sigh* I really
wanted that last 5 min. of sleep.

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1176 more feh

 

• Feb. 4, 2003

 

Got this email from X:
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Subject: Max's yahoo ID
Date: Tue, 4 Feb 2003 09:21:01 -0600

I need it. Please . Soon.

X
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Replied thusly:

I don't have it.

It might be something like "peglegasus" but I really don't know.

sorry.
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Forwarded her email to J with this note:

You know...I'm probably just being ultra-touchy
because I havent' gotten to bed at a reasonable hour
for several days running, and I'm just having some
sort of 'issue' with her in general, but this struck
me as very incredibly fucking rude.

Am I just nuts?
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J said:

It is incredibly fucking rude. A normal person would say, hey, I need
to email Max about an old friend of his I ran into (or whatever),
what is his yahoo id?
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What the fuck is wrong with X??

And why do I keep bothering with her? We haven't been right or good
in a long time.

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1177 Re: more feh

 

Feb. 4, 2003

 

 

My reply to J:

Thanks for the reality check.

I think this is another drama-stirring moment. She
wants me to ask her WHY she's asking for Max's info.
She wants me to speculate and be jealous or whatever
the fuck.

Whatever. I am not going to play the same kinds of
jealousy games she plays with M (poor man).

If she or Max wants me to know what's up, they'll tell
me, and I'm sure it's something stupid anyway. Plus,
I know from experience that Max isn't that great in
the sack; so she can have him for all I care :P

=E
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J:

LMAO! Poor Max.

This is definitely all about X stirring up drama and wanting to be
the center of some silly little intrigue.

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1178Re: more feh

 

• Feb. 4, 2003

 

another email to J:

My theory on max/x is that she wants him to do something for her
computer for free. If he's dumb enough to let himself be used by her,
that's his problem.

=E
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Her reply:

Exactly.
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[takes a sucker to know one...here I am letting her use me endlessly
and angsting over her getting another sucker on the lists. whatever.]

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1179Re: more feh

 

Feb. 4, 2003

 

 

Oh, on the max/x thing, btw, I don't even know
max's yahoo id, so in this particular case I couldn't
come a-runnin' when massa snapped her fingers, anyway.
:P And she, of course, hasn't replied at all, not even
a 'thanks anyway' or 'who would have that info?' or
anything.

Who the fuck does she think she is, anyway? Just
because we have history she doesn't have to employ
common courtesy?

Ah well, she wants me riled, so I am not going to go
there.

I just identified the possible reasons for me feeling
that things are 'off' between me & her:

I realized that neither she nor M nor goddessdaughter have
written me a 'thank you' note for taking that
mannerless slob-child to Vegas. Not even an email.

[they haven't even spoken to me, other than the reply to my joke
wherein she told me she lost her paper, and a little bit at the party-
-I wonder if they're mad at me for something? I don't really care &
can't be bothered to chase them around asking if they're mad at me;
if they're not going to speak to me, so what.]

M kept 'joking', telling everyone at Saturday's
party about how I took his kid to Vegas and turned her
loose on the streets with $20 to spend. SO Not Funny.
I spent every waking moment with that kid for 3 days.
I didn't even leave the room to go gamble after she
went to bed. Oh, wait, I may have left her at the
table for a second while I went to get bread or
dessert or something when we were at a buffet. How
rotten of me.

Rudest damn people ever.

I will feel bad for losing contact with sweet little
Jordan if I have to cut them off, but I'm getting to
the end of my rope (you've heard this all before)...I
dunno, maybe I'm just blowing off steam, or maybe I
really need to just cut my losses and go on.

*sigh* stupid x drama. why am I letting it get to
me??

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1180Re: more feh

 

 

Feb. 4, 2003

 

 

J sez:

X, M and their uncouth carpet monkeys can shove it.

You're right to be peeved about the thank-you note.... and when/if
they question why you have cut off/minimized contact with them, you
might say something about it.

I totally understand that her drama gets to you - it's always awful
to witness your loved ones' rudeness, or to find yourself on the
receiving end of it. Moreover, you've known her a long time, but
y'all are in different places in your lives now. You realize it, and
have your own internal struggles with it.... I don't know that X
realizes it.

As for sweet little Jordan... he may be sweet now.... but unless he
was blessed with really great coping skills and an independent
streak.... I can see him not turning out very well; clearly, a large
portion of Xs motherly energies are focused on Princess .... it would
be next to impossible for the other kids not to feel like crap about
it - and it could impact them for a long time to come unless they
learn to deal with it constructively.