You always have a choice of words and actions , no matter how angry or stressed you feel.

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Stress doesn't cause abusive behavior. Mental health issues do not cause abusive behavior. Your behavior is always, always, ALWAYS your choice.

"Remember: partners who are abusive always have a choice about their words and actions."

http://www.thehotline.org/2014/01/blame-shifting-and-minimizing-theres-no-excuse-for-abuse/