yes, this.
Jan. 27th, 2012 12:02 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
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This is why I run far,far away from people who portray themselves as 'victims'... Claiming victimhood allows them to rationalize any and all abuse they dish out.
I have been abused. I am a survivor, NOT a victim. I will not allow my abuser(s) to win by becoming a monster. I will not excuse, justify, or explain away any bad behavior on my part by whining about what someone in my past did to me. I will own it and I will do my best to apologize, make amends if possible, and not repeat the mistake.
I aim to become a better person, not pass on misery because someone once inflicted misery on me.
I will not close my heart because it has been wounded in the past. I want to be open to new people and new experiences in life.
At the same time, I will not allow myself to be treated badly by the people I choose to keep in my life.
I am a grown woman, and this is what healthy, sane, responsible adults do.
Also, most definitely THIS. It is far too easy to get addicted to drama and mistake the excitement you feel for love. But once you stop jumping through hoops and stop to catch a breath, you may see it for what it is--a very shabby dog and pony show indeed.
This is why I run far,far away from people who portray themselves as 'victims'... Claiming victimhood allows them to rationalize any and all abuse they dish out.
I have been abused. I am a survivor, NOT a victim. I will not allow my abuser(s) to win by becoming a monster. I will not excuse, justify, or explain away any bad behavior on my part by whining about what someone in my past did to me. I will own it and I will do my best to apologize, make amends if possible, and not repeat the mistake.
I aim to become a better person, not pass on misery because someone once inflicted misery on me.
I will not close my heart because it has been wounded in the past. I want to be open to new people and new experiences in life.
At the same time, I will not allow myself to be treated badly by the people I choose to keep in my life.
I am a grown woman, and this is what healthy, sane, responsible adults do.
Also, most definitely THIS. It is far too easy to get addicted to drama and mistake the excitement you feel for love. But once you stop jumping through hoops and stop to catch a breath, you may see it for what it is--a very shabby dog and pony show indeed.
