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evile1) Adult females stuck in "I'm a Princess, Rescue Me" mode [your choices in relating to a person who insists on living in this story: knight/prince, evil stepfamily, evil monster, or, if you can keep being entertaining and helpful and do everything they want, when they want you to, you can be a loyal servant or a 'magickal object'...of course, as soon as you say 'no' or want something for yourself, you get to be evil stepfamily or terrible dragon. Women who play Princess Rescue Me all their lives don't have friends, they have servants, magical objects, persecutors, and rescuers. There is no such thing as an authentic relationship with these poor helpless (manipulative, passive agressive) little victims]
2) The Silent Treatment. [I've pondered this one before, the 'silent treatment' vs the 'no contact rule'. What it boiled down to for me was that silent treatment is someone being manipulative and passive aggressive and trying to control another person by withholding themselves and avoiding constructive dialogue and communication. Whereas 'no contact' involves shutting down access to yourself after someone has proven themselves to be toxic when given said access. If everything you say or do becomes ammunition for the other person to hurt you with, then it's likely that 'no contact' is a good idea. If one person is a toxic abuser and the other one just wants to be left alone, The Silent Treatment is a very good self-protecting thing to do. If there are two people who basically respect and care about each other and want to have a good relationship, but some misunderstanding or hurt feelings have come up, then the Silent Treatment is a Bad Sign.]
3) Hypocrisy. (yes, I know.)
2) The Silent Treatment. [I've pondered this one before, the 'silent treatment' vs the 'no contact rule'. What it boiled down to for me was that silent treatment is someone being manipulative and passive aggressive and trying to control another person by withholding themselves and avoiding constructive dialogue and communication. Whereas 'no contact' involves shutting down access to yourself after someone has proven themselves to be toxic when given said access. If everything you say or do becomes ammunition for the other person to hurt you with, then it's likely that 'no contact' is a good idea. If one person is a toxic abuser and the other one just wants to be left alone, The Silent Treatment is a very good self-protecting thing to do. If there are two people who basically respect and care about each other and want to have a good relationship, but some misunderstanding or hurt feelings have come up, then the Silent Treatment is a Bad Sign.]
3) Hypocrisy. (yes, I know.)
