15 Reasons Why People Are Defriended on Livejournal

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found browsing friends-of-friends in LJ, specifically, posted by daylight_broke,

Under the cut is a list of 15 reasons that people have told me for why they have removed other people from their mutual friends list. What are your reasons for defriending people on Livejournal?


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1. Not responding to comments on their personal journals.
2. "The person has never commented on any of my posts."
3. Boring posts. The definition of a "boring" post will vary depending on whom you ask.
4. Excessive posting per day. What's your definition of excessive posting? More than 5+ posts per day?
5. Born with a negative personality: too depressing, too hostile, too critical, too judgmental.
6. Twitter updates.
7. All comments are screened from all friends for all posts.
8. Journals are no longer updated after years of inactivity.
9. TL;DR posts about mundane real-life activities (for example, writing a long post about clipping their toenails).
10. Format (lack of paragraph breaks), mechanics (lack of capital letters at the beginning of sentences), punctuation (lack of periods at the end of sentences).
11. Whining for more comments all the time despite the fact all their posts are TL;DR or boring.
12. NSFW posts.
13. Passive-aggressive posts. Example: "A person on my mutual f-list wrote a post or a comment I did not like. So I'm going to write this passive-aggressive post venting about that person. I won't reveal the person's name, but I know this person will be reading this post!"
14. Refusing to do LJ-cuts for long entries that break the scrollbar.
15. Growing apart and developing different interests.

Comments

[emmainfiniti.livejournal.com]

Yep. All of these.

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

most of those don't bother me to the 'unfriend' level. Minor annoyances, for sure, but usually I can skim or skip twitter posts, boring stuff, or what have you.

I have unfriended people for relentless negativity or because the 'growing apart' involved them getting into things that were self destructive, abusive, illegal, etc. and I just didn't want to know or see any more.

[freyapax.livejournal.com]

Hmm not sure I've ever defriended for any of those. I rarely rarely ever defriend folks, and then times I have, its been a BFD. It always has to do with my relationship with that individual, not their posting styles or topics. When a friendship has gone kablooey in spite all attempts to fix it, and it causes me emotional distress to see their posts, no matter what they are talking about, they eventually get defriended.

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

That makes sense to me.

[made-of-paradox.livejournal.com]

Add "they defriended me first" and "didn't really know them in the first place."

Not that I've defriended anyone, I don't think, but that has been motivation given by others.

Occasionally there's relationship Drama and that is followed by defriending Drama. :P Not fun!

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

Yup, yup! Been there, done that!

[colorbars.livejournal.com]

I don't think I've ever unfriended an *actual* friend. There are a few "friends" on my friends list that I don't even know who friended me apparently because my name is the same as a lame-ass thing where you take a bunch of little pictures, stick them together and add a tint to them. It's called a Color Bar. Why anyone would think making one of these things is a talent I have no idea. So anyway, I set these twinks as a friend so I could post a few snarky comments that only they would see. Apparently they didn't get the hint. 5 of them were in high school and 1 was probably younger. None of them have updated in at least 5 years but I'm still stuck with their sorry asses listing me as a friend. Why is it that LJ can't let you boot someone from listing you as a friend?

[bramblekite.livejournal.com]

Anyone can friend you, you don't have to friend them back.

I think I'm with you, someone I know in RL who is my LJ friend gets a free pass on a lot of things that would get an online acquaintance a quick trip to the door.

Real friends can be negative, boring, have bad grammar, etc. and it's OK because they're my friends. :)

[degreeabsolute.livejournal.com]

Technically, you can. If you ban someone from your journal, they no longer appear as your friend on your info. Your name will still appear on THEIR userinfo, but with their post rates, I imagine it's not the sort of thing that would matter much.

http://www.livejournal.com/manage/banusers.bml <---Do that here.