"Say what you need to say"

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Yup. and pretty hard to say something once another person has said they don't want to hear anything you have to say...Seems I'm always in situations where the other person "lets me have it" and then "slams the door" .... seems I ought to get better at

Today's thought from Hazelden is:

We wonder, "How can I ever say this?"

We need to be free to talk about anything in our intimate relationships.
Some things are very hard to say - an old secret we have never told
before, a feeling or an observation our partner does not want to hear,
a mistake we made that calls for confession. We wonder, "How can I ever
say this? How can I avoid hurting myself or my partner?"

Not
all things need to be said at once. Readiness is the first part. We can
get ourselves ready to speak. The second part is timing. When we are
ready, we wait for a good moment to appear, a moment in which our
message will fit. The third part is love. Honesty coupled with care and
love is healing and strengthening. Some pain is necessary in a growing
relationship, and we can tolerate it because it leads to more
understanding and more peace of mind.

Think of one new thing you would like to tell your mate about your thoughts, feelings, or behavior.

You are reading from the book:

The More We Find In Each Other by Merle Fossum and Mavis Fossum

The
More We Find in Each Other by Merle Fossum and Mavis Fossum. © 1992 by
Hazelden Foundation. All rights reserved. Printed in the United States
of America. No portion of this publication may be reproduced in any
manner without the permission of Hazelden.