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evileI just have to be amused by someone nitpicking between definitions of "combative" versus "confrontational" when this person has managed to interpret "That's a nice corset" as me insulting them for not (usually) wearing a brassiere.
Consider the source is one of those things that comes in handy....when you know a person is fond of expressing ill-informed, deliberately offensive opinions in company where it's sure to incite a strong negative response, when you know that a person is abrasive & abusive and refuses to be called on abusive behavior, when you know damn good and well that a person doesn't see themselves as AT ALL responsible for others' strong negative reactions to their words and behavior, there's just no point at all in approaching, speaking, or attempting to do anything other than display all the qualities of
a) doormat
b) adoring audience--smiling, nodding, laughing and applauding on-cue. That's your job. You aren't a person, you have no opinions of your own, you don't get any input with this person if you want to stay in their good graces. You are merely a source of adulation, or you don't exist.
Because anything that makes you not a doormat or not an object makes you offensive and possibly dangerous to the fragile, false, entirely fabricated sense of self.
Consider the source is one of those things that comes in handy....when you know a person is fond of expressing ill-informed, deliberately offensive opinions in company where it's sure to incite a strong negative response, when you know that a person is abrasive & abusive and refuses to be called on abusive behavior, when you know damn good and well that a person doesn't see themselves as AT ALL responsible for others' strong negative reactions to their words and behavior, there's just no point at all in approaching, speaking, or attempting to do anything other than display all the qualities of
a) doormat
b) adoring audience--smiling, nodding, laughing and applauding on-cue. That's your job. You aren't a person, you have no opinions of your own, you don't get any input with this person if you want to stay in their good graces. You are merely a source of adulation, or you don't exist.
Because anything that makes you not a doormat or not an object makes you offensive and possibly dangerous to the fragile, false, entirely fabricated sense of self.
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Date: 2008-04-24 08:06 pm (UTC)It just irks me that 'some people' see (or deliberately, falsely portray) themselves as so reasonable, So very open to honesty--even if it's unpleasant, available for respectful disagreement, and then you know that in RL, they don't see a difference between respectful disagreement, harsh criticism, or even genuine kind words, when they come from a person they've already decided is 'the enemy'.
It's rather infuriating to have to deal with someone who's already decided that whatever you say and do is deliberately meant to offend them personally, who goes around acting like they're a reasonable, respectful adult, even at a remove.
:(