So...what's not to get?
Feb. 12th, 2004 06:01 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
evile"Oh, I just don't understand why you're so mad at me!"
Okay...
1) you ask me to lie for you to your spouse. (When you yourself have boasted about how open you are with your family and how the family has no secrets.)
2) become unreasonably angry with me when I refuse to do so
3) get your spouse mad at me through some kind of manipulation I do not yet understand
4) your spouse calls me a child-hater and
5) tells me I have until a specific time to come say goodbye to his children (whom I actually love very much and this ultimatum breaks my fucking heart)
6) then you rescind his statement and tell me that I can see your children, but only if I agree to visit them under supervision.
7) you tell me I'm not a nice person and not a good influence for your children
8) then you don't speak to me for a few months
8.5)[edit--forgot this one & it was a doozie!]-Write a letter to my mother and tell her about 2 of my social groups: No Kidding! ["E hangs out with child haters"] and the Austin Polyamorous community ["E is fooling around on T"], distorting and insinuating just enough to put me in a very unsavory light indeed.
9) then you get busted for doing and selling drugs in your home, in front of your children.
10) during this bust cops find pornography in my goddaughter's room
11) in a subsequent conversation with my goddaughter, my mother notes that the child has a very sophisticated vocabulary and nonchalant attitude regarding said drugs and pornography
12) After you are out of jail, you try and blame your (soon to be) ex (so you say) for all of the drugs and the selling thereof
12) BUT freely admit to smoking marijuana in front of your children
13) do not respond to my offers to take your children to church or support groups.
14) don't call or email me again for months
15) call me on the phone at work today to tell me how you are sorry but you still just can't understand why I am so angry with you and that you could really use someone to care about you right now.
I call your attention to the words "really use"...that is what you had been doing to me for YEARS and I finally had enough. And as if #1 & 2 wasn't a horrible enough thing to do to someone, #s 3-15 are pretty much deal-breakers.
Okay?
Okay.
[edit: Okay, I know that one of you reading this knows who I'm writing about. And I know that you have seen fit to stir up shit by pointing the person in the direction of my online writings in the past. So please be sure and send the person in question the link to this one. Thanks, 'pal']
Okay...
1) you ask me to lie for you to your spouse. (When you yourself have boasted about how open you are with your family and how the family has no secrets.)
2) become unreasonably angry with me when I refuse to do so
3) get your spouse mad at me through some kind of manipulation I do not yet understand
4) your spouse calls me a child-hater and
5) tells me I have until a specific time to come say goodbye to his children (whom I actually love very much and this ultimatum breaks my fucking heart)
6) then you rescind his statement and tell me that I can see your children, but only if I agree to visit them under supervision.
7) you tell me I'm not a nice person and not a good influence for your children
8) then you don't speak to me for a few months
8.5)[edit--forgot this one & it was a doozie!]-Write a letter to my mother and tell her about 2 of my social groups: No Kidding! ["E hangs out with child haters"] and the Austin Polyamorous community ["E is fooling around on T"], distorting and insinuating just enough to put me in a very unsavory light indeed.
9) then you get busted for doing and selling drugs in your home, in front of your children.
10) during this bust cops find pornography in my goddaughter's room
11) in a subsequent conversation with my goddaughter, my mother notes that the child has a very sophisticated vocabulary and nonchalant attitude regarding said drugs and pornography
12) After you are out of jail, you try and blame your (soon to be) ex (so you say) for all of the drugs and the selling thereof
12) BUT freely admit to smoking marijuana in front of your children
13) do not respond to my offers to take your children to church or support groups.
14) don't call or email me again for months
15) call me on the phone at work today to tell me how you are sorry but you still just can't understand why I am so angry with you and that you could really use someone to care about you right now.
I call your attention to the words "really use"...that is what you had been doing to me for YEARS and I finally had enough. And as if #1 & 2 wasn't a horrible enough thing to do to someone, #s 3-15 are pretty much deal-breakers.
Okay?
Okay.
[edit: Okay, I know that one of you reading this knows who I'm writing about. And I know that you have seen fit to stir up shit by pointing the person in the direction of my online writings in the past. So please be sure and send the person in question the link to this one. Thanks, 'pal']
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Date: 2004-02-12 04:57 pm (UTC)Whatever that was, it sure sounds rough. I am so sorry.
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Date: 2004-02-12 05:21 pm (UTC)I feel better now, having just laid it out like that.
I have to deliberately NOT THINK of the things those children have been through, because it makes me want their parents dead. But I'm the child hating one. Me, the one who took them to museums and renfaires and amusement parks and theatres and libraries and bookstores and picnics and restaurants. The one who loved them and read them books and gave them baths and let them be kids and didn't do ugly shit in front of them and force them to grow up too soon.
That kills me.
*hugs*
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Date: 2004-02-13 08:40 am (UTC)Re:
Date: 2004-02-13 09:01 am (UTC)Re:
Date: 2004-02-13 09:30 am (UTC)As George Carlin put it, "Even John Wayne Gacy 'loved' his children." Too many folks out there have a very skewed view of what that actually means.
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Date: 2004-02-16 08:16 am (UTC)"precious and few are the moments that you / and your own worst enemy share"