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[evile]

 

Jun. 28, 2004

 

evile: hey :)
SkyeDS: hey there :)
evile: How was your weekend?
SkyeDS: Saturday was very wet, didn't do anything but watch movies.
SkyeDS: took the children to Drandmir Sunday, had a lovely time, got
rained on but just as we were leaving and I know I"m weird but it
felt nice until we got absolutely soaked
SkyeDS: how was yours?
evile: I don't mind being out in rain, unless I'm driving in it.
evile: didn't do nothing but sit around eat and read and sleep.
pretty boring.
SkyeDS: <writing a cover letter for Hugh, he laughed at me because
I'm pulling positive personal traits from his natal chart for his
personal paragraph
SkyeDS: but I showed him the list of traits and he had to admit they
were all true and all applicable to the task at hand.
evile: heh. that's cool.
evile: I talked to mom & [dad] on the phone Sunday. Nobody's heard
from Brother A. [dad] has a possible way to help him without giving Brother A a
chance to be lazy & take advantage.
SkyeDS: do tell?
evile: He didn't give me any details, but apparently its' time-
sensitive & Brother A needs to get in touch soon for it to possibly
happen. Very Mysterious.
SkyeDS: they do love their mysteries (sineater, [dad] and Brother A). It puts
me in mind of Sarah McLachlan's "Building a Mystery"
evile: heh. Like father like sons...or maybe it's just that Scorpio
thing.
SkyeDS: all of the above maybe
evile: I called The Rubber Pig back on Friday, but luckily got the machine.
And she hasn't called me back (thank goodness)...so I guess that's
that.
SkyeDS: wonder what she wanted
SkyeDS: and if she called before or after they broke up
SkyeDS: in general I'm too overcurious by far, enough to kill many
cats
evile: She called Thursday around Noon, apparently she called me,
Aunt L & Mom all at the same time, right after Brother A walked out the door.
SkyeDS: that's very interesting ~ CJS
evile: She got ahold of Mom & Aunt L, but I was at work & by the time I
got back in on Thurs. night it was too late to call. So i called
Friday around 6 & got the machine.
evile: I figured she was doing damage control & trying to paint
herself in a favorable light by getting in her version of the story
before Brother A did.
SkyeDS: surely K/Mom and/or Aunt L will share what was said
evile: But apparently she told mom that it was all her fault.
evile: Basically, she reneged on all previous arrangements and said
he had to go to police academy or leave. He left.
SkyeDS: police academy? why so very specific? lol
SkyeDS: why not just get a real job with a real paycheck?
evile: The Rubber Pig wanted him to go to police academy. It was police
academy or the door, that was the choice.
SkyeDS: very narrowminded
evile: No telling why she was that specific in her demand, but Iam
just thankful that Brother A wasn't cuntsmacked enough to think for
himself and walk.
SkyeDS: but then I am a big proponent of mental periphery, enough to
drive everyone around me nuts
evile: I also think that Brother A getting sick on Tuesday was a factor.
SkyeDS: ?
evile: That messed up the relationship dynamic significantly. Brother A is
supposed to be the big strong loverman who does everything for poor
sick The Rubber Pig and the sweet little girls. heaven fucking forbid that he
be running at both ends and need some TLC himself.
SkyeDS: I guess obedience to one's husband does not extend to "in
sickness and in health"
evile: Not in the church of the magical internet, anyway. :P
SkyeDS: and for all this they dragged you (and attempted to drag the
rest of us) to San Antonio on short notice for a mock wedding
ceremony...
evile: indeed.
evile: No wonder her oldest girl was so full of doubts. Mom probably
puts the girls through this sort of thing on a regular basis.
SkyeDS: I don't even want to imagine what my parents response would
be if sineater and I decided to have some sort of ceremony to bring
sonar0m into the family, and invited them.
evile: heh.
SkyeDS: I mean, no matter what spin they put on it, th at's basically
what they did
SkyeDS: a mock ceremony to bring Brother A into the existing family that
still includes Trey
evile: that's not how it was presented to anyone.
SkyeDS: of course not
SkyeDS: but that's what it was
evile: It was whatever it was in The Rubber Pig's mind. And I'm glad it's over.
evile: I don't know how deeply she was denying or lying, if it was to
everyone else, or to herself and Brother A too.
SkyeDS: and hopefully will stay over.
SkyeDS: I can't stand it when people recycle relationships
evile: Brother A is stubborn enough to where he most likely won't go back.
*fingers crossed*
SkyeDS: I think it's highly likely/probable that kaleon thought that
when we tried to start over again that we would recycle and just go
back to exactly The Way We Were (tm).
SkyeDS: and it seldom if ever works that way
evile: ugh.
SkyeDS: well, call it stubborn or persistent (one has negative
connotations and one positive) I hope he doesn't go back
evile: me too.
evile: I'm just worried because nobody's heard from him.
SkyeDS: nursing wounds, looking for work/working, probably too raw to
talk to anyone about what will be perceived as a mistake?
evile: I hope that's what it is.
evile: Mom says Brother A is generally happier when he's working & more
productive at his hobby stuff.
evile: I just dont' want him doing anything stupid(er) because he
doesn't think he has any other options.
SkyeDS: nods.
SkyeDS: the only way Brother A would be happy with police work is if he
made detective
SkyeDS: and he'd probably be just as happy being a private eye
evile: Not even that. He does not do well with authority figures or
regulations or paperwork...
evile: None of those career paths have ever crossed his mind, as far
as I know. Growing up, he never said anything about being interested
in law enforcement of any kind.
evile: expressed interest in working at the parks as a ranger but
dropped it as soon as he realized he'd have to go through
police/paramilitary type training.
evile: The Rubber Pig has some interest in forensics & was apparently studying
it for aw hile, so maybe she had some vision of her doing police lab
work and Brother A doing the shitwork with the criminals in the streets.
SkyeDS: why I figured he'd be happier as a private eye (no police
training)
SkyeDS: he can dig up secrets and stuff his own way
evile: Other than the people/shmooze factor, Brother A has ZERO
capabilities that would aid him in that field.
SkyeDS: as he doesn't want to be in that field, doesn't much matter
anyway
SkyeDS: but I still wonder what the hell she was thinking
SkyeDS: I mean, the weirdness of the specificity of the demand just
makes me wonder, wtf?
evile: I think she was making an unreasonable demand to see if she
could get him to do it.
SkyeDS: she already did that (w/ Paulie)
evile: yup.
evile: But with Paulie it was not a my wya or the highway situation.
evile: Or at least Brother A did not treat it as such.
evile: Maybe The Rubber Pig is so miserable & insane that she didn't feel like
she deserved Brother A so she did whatever she could to fulfil her image
of herself as being unlovable & someone tnat nobody will stay with.
SkyeDS: maybe she did this because she didn't get the results she
wanted w/ Paulie
SkyeDS: that hoop didn't work so let's try another
evile: could be.
evile: One of her key phrases was/is "I can't believe"--
SkyeDS: wonder why that is.
evile: So maybe she made that her lack of belief made it into
reality. "I can't believe this man married me!" I can't believe you
came to the wedding! I Cant' believe I found someone so good for me
and the girls!
SkyeDS: self fulfilling prophecy
evile: yup. sad.
evile: Trying to understand crazy people makes me want to drink.
SkyeDS: complete non sequitur and apropos of nothing but I note with
a certain amount of satisfaction that SCOTUS did exactly what I said
they'd have to
evile: excellent :)
evile: ti's always fun being right :)
SkyeDS: nobody I've been saying that to for years now will
acknowledge that, but it is still personal satisfaction
evile: that's what counts.
SkyeDS: brb - food in face time
SkyeDS: bk
evile: rehi :)
evile: I got phone duty on Friday, so I'll be done 3-ish :) Whee!
SkyeDS: lucky you :P
evile: yeah. Sometimes this place aint' so bad.
evile: If I can live without a reliable vehicle for a year and a
half, and assuming other expenses stay about teh same, I can be out
of bad plastic debt in a year & a half. A year if I'm really
agressive & give up most fun things.
SkyeDS: Genus was the best thing I ever did to get rid of a mountain
of bad plastic.
evile: I have heard mixed things about credit management cos'.
evile: My big plastic co. gave me a 2% balance transfer thingy, so
I've got 9 grand at 2 percent and no hits to my credit rating.
SkyeDS: cool :D
evile: It gets to be tiresome throwing 4 and 5 grand at a debt and
having only $2-300 go away over the course of a year.
evile: And then once my debts are gone, I can start saving for home
improvements/repairs, which will be desperately needed by that time.
SkyeDS: I don't think we're going to be able to refi in time to get
the really good rates that are already starting to disappear <sigh>
SkyeDS: we're barely staying afloat right now and this month had a
whole bunch of unexpected expenses on top of it all
evile: Sweetie refuses to even run our number past a banker. peeves me.
SkyeDS: but when (if I guess) sineater gets that job on Wednesday, he
will make enough to get us out of the hole and save up for the next
famine
evile: *fingers crossed* hope so!
evile: It would be nice to get on a nice even keel with all this
stuff...but that seems hard to do.
SkyeDS: we had a nice time at Drandmir
SkyeDS: I'm looking forward to spending some riding time there after
CRW and all the other events for the summer are over
SkyeDS: I don't think SCA's doing anything else EQ for the rest of
the summer, it's too damn hot
evile: I wish I'd known you were going to be out there... :(
SkyeDS: I wish I could have told you
evile: oh well.
SkyeDS: but it involved negotiation with sineater's attitude, and that's
always tricky and time consuming and results in last minute decision
execution
evile: *nods*
SkyeDS: (ie he didn't want to go, I had to prove to him it wasn't
going to rain)
evile: yup.
evile: I dont' mind rain, unless Im driving in it, but I really am
not a fan of humidity or mud.
SkyeDS: he put up forecasts and I put up an animated actual radar
evile: And that was pretty much Sunday in a nutshell.
SkyeDS: it was very humid.
SkyeDS: not terribly muddy, but that park is good about that
SkyeDS: which is why we went to Drandmir instead of to Round Rock
evile: aha.
evile: Oh well. I probably needed a quiet weekend at home, in
preparation for this next one...
SkyeDS: if you end up wanting to run away, call me
SkyeDS: sineater's getting the black truck fixed at my parents behest
(and on their credit card) as we speak, so we will have two vehicles,
one fairly fuel efficient, again
evile: good :)
evile: I won't be able to escape, unfo. I'll either be at the mercy
of Sweetie & whatever camping he decides to do, or Aunt L & Uncle B.
evile: The good news is that the Villagers of the Damned got a better
offer & so won't be at Elaine's.
SkyeDS: lol that's good
evile: Yeah, only one brat kid instead of 6.
evile: or 5 1/2 or whatever.
evile: Sweetie's taking his van radiator somewhere for them to look at it
today. We may have 2 running vehicles soon.
SkyeDS: two running vehicles rawks
SkyeDS: I still want a little hybrid eventually
SkyeDS: I think ideally for us, a little hybrid and a big ton dually
SkyeDS: although if we work different schedules we might want to keep
the little black truck running as long as we can
SkyeDS: we can't both use the hybrid on different schedules
evile: yup
SkyeDS: brb, running to COA and back
evile: I gotta go soon, anyway,so I'll sign off & give hugs now.