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Home from CO
May. 3rd, 2024 10:58 amI am glad I decided to just visit my one friend and then come home, and not try to kill a few days and then go to Clint's memorial in CO in person. Theyr'e going to do a Zoom tomorrow and I'll pop in.
Being with my friend in Pueblo was challenging. My default when wanting to help is to *do* - go places, do things, clean up, make lists, stay moving. Her grieving response was to want to sit in front of her big TV, watch old favorite things, talk and tell stories about her husband, her life, her mom and other deceased relatives, and just...well, probably dissociate. So we sat around with her. and I went a little stir crazy/cabin fevery in my head.
I was the first one up in the mornings (weird) and I'd make coffee and hang out in the backyard. One morning I took her little dog for a walk, that was nice.
We got her out of the house twice - once to go to a restaurant and order some takeout, and once to pick up her prescriptions at the pharmacy and then to the pot shop (her idea) We 9me and L. the other austin friend who travelled to visit) got to the big grocery store and the walmart and got her stocked up on cat food and cat litter, at least.
And I cooked dinner one night which had leftovers which are now in the freezer.
By the end of our visit she was talking about getting more done around the house by herself, being able to work and focus when her husband wasn't underfoot and I got that she was ready to get going on some stuff.
Anyway, now that i'm home I"m going to write her a thank you note for her hospitality and try to remember to text regularly just to say hi.
I got a linkedin message yesterday from a recruiter. We talked on the phone and it sounds pretty good. I should be having one more interview with the actual employer next week and then getting started on a new contract (1 year to hire). There's going to be OT (good money, at least) and the business is located in Indiana so I'll be working on eastern time, which may mean I have to be up early. I can get used to it.
It's pretty amazing how well everything careerwise/money wise has fallen into place so easily and well since I quit my stupid mean old state job. Thax is a litte bit mad because I'll be making $19.50 / hour and he thinks I should be getting more, but it's really enough. My actual expenses aren't that great. Groceries, house and car insurance, cel phone bill, annual property taxes...that's pretty much it. Car maintenance, vet care. Thax takes care of utilities. House is paid off. Cars are paid off.
I looked over my credit card activity from the last year; I need to be serious about budgeting even though I'm making good money. I need to make sure i have enough to pay our property taxes, and I also really want to get the money saved for Pepita's hip dysplasia surgery.
I suspended my red light therapy membership when my last job was coming to an end; I don't know if I'll cancel or keep it. There may be a facility closer to home that offers similar or better amenities.
And my next 'for me' big purchase is going to be either an ebike or an infrared halotherapy sauna
And I still need to get all my death arrangements done. No plans on dying any time soon but between seeing how much easier everything was since G/Dad had his stuff all squared away, vs my father having very little squared away (his house is still in limbo), and my friend in CO and her husband's sudden death....I just want to make it easier for people when I'm gone. And I really want to get into better physical shape. Spending time with two friends in CO who are both dealing with health stuff and talking about their various prescriptions and side effects....makes me grateful not to have any health conditions other than surgical menopause and obesity....really pretty lucky
Being with my friend in Pueblo was challenging. My default when wanting to help is to *do* - go places, do things, clean up, make lists, stay moving. Her grieving response was to want to sit in front of her big TV, watch old favorite things, talk and tell stories about her husband, her life, her mom and other deceased relatives, and just...well, probably dissociate. So we sat around with her. and I went a little stir crazy/cabin fevery in my head.
I was the first one up in the mornings (weird) and I'd make coffee and hang out in the backyard. One morning I took her little dog for a walk, that was nice.
We got her out of the house twice - once to go to a restaurant and order some takeout, and once to pick up her prescriptions at the pharmacy and then to the pot shop (her idea) We 9me and L. the other austin friend who travelled to visit) got to the big grocery store and the walmart and got her stocked up on cat food and cat litter, at least.
And I cooked dinner one night which had leftovers which are now in the freezer.
By the end of our visit she was talking about getting more done around the house by herself, being able to work and focus when her husband wasn't underfoot and I got that she was ready to get going on some stuff.
Anyway, now that i'm home I"m going to write her a thank you note for her hospitality and try to remember to text regularly just to say hi.
I got a linkedin message yesterday from a recruiter. We talked on the phone and it sounds pretty good. I should be having one more interview with the actual employer next week and then getting started on a new contract (1 year to hire). There's going to be OT (good money, at least) and the business is located in Indiana so I'll be working on eastern time, which may mean I have to be up early. I can get used to it.
It's pretty amazing how well everything careerwise/money wise has fallen into place so easily and well since I quit my stupid mean old state job. Thax is a litte bit mad because I'll be making $19.50 / hour and he thinks I should be getting more, but it's really enough. My actual expenses aren't that great. Groceries, house and car insurance, cel phone bill, annual property taxes...that's pretty much it. Car maintenance, vet care. Thax takes care of utilities. House is paid off. Cars are paid off.
I looked over my credit card activity from the last year; I need to be serious about budgeting even though I'm making good money. I need to make sure i have enough to pay our property taxes, and I also really want to get the money saved for Pepita's hip dysplasia surgery.
I suspended my red light therapy membership when my last job was coming to an end; I don't know if I'll cancel or keep it. There may be a facility closer to home that offers similar or better amenities.
And my next 'for me' big purchase is going to be either an ebike or an infrared halotherapy sauna
And I still need to get all my death arrangements done. No plans on dying any time soon but between seeing how much easier everything was since G/Dad had his stuff all squared away, vs my father having very little squared away (his house is still in limbo), and my friend in CO and her husband's sudden death....I just want to make it easier for people when I'm gone. And I really want to get into better physical shape. Spending time with two friends in CO who are both dealing with health stuff and talking about their various prescriptions and side effects....makes me grateful not to have any health conditions other than surgical menopause and obesity....really pretty lucky
