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Are you still living under your parent’s roof? Then, I would say no.

Are you an adult who depends on your parent financially? Then, I would say no.

Are you an adult who does not live with your parents nor depend on your parent financially? Then, I would say no.

There is absolutely no point in ‘rebelling’ or fighting or engaging in any sort of conflict or disagreement with a narcissist parent. They are better at being sneaky, low down, dirty, mean, and nasty than you ever will be. No matter how horrible you think you are being to them, they will find a way to be worse to you. You may be in it to win, they are in it to make sure you lose. There is a huge difference because they do not care if they lose, also, as long as you lose worse. They will absolutely destroy everything, even things, people, and relationships that are valuable to themselves, as long as they know it will hurt you first or worse.

On top of all that, they have likely crafted a story with your relatives and any mutual acquaintances about you. Whatever you do or say to ‘rebel’ is going to feed this story—that you are ungrateful, that you are crazy, that you are the narcissist, whatever. It is going to make you look like the A-hole in the situation and make your abusive parent look like a patient, long-suffering saint of a person who has done everything and given everything to make you happy…and look at you, there, rebelling! Being so terrible and awful!

Grow up, get out, leave them to their misery. Go low or no contact. Therapy for you. Let them die in a nursing home alone and unmourned. That is the way to win.

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