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In general, I’d have to say ‘no’. The only thing that you have control over is yourself—change your behavior, change your expectations, or change your environment by finding a different workplace.
Many businesses and industries are controlled by people who view narcissistic behavior as positive, and therefore reward narcissists with leadership roles. If you work for an industry or organization that accepts or encourages abuse and gaslighting as management tools, the narcissistic behavior will never end at that organization. It is a sick system[1]
If there is a particular person behaving badly towards you personally, that may end when the person is fired or leaves their job for another one elsewhere. If management and HR is responsive to your concerns and intervenes appropriately, that may be a good sign that the workplace is healthy and will probably do a good job of making a narcissist feel unwelcome & scooting them out the door. If you’ve found such a workplace, congratulations!
But, in my experience, he best way to end narcissistic behavior in your workplace is to find another workplace and to establish and maintain firm boundaries in your new workplace from day 1, hour 1 of your new employment. In my experience, a lot of abusive behavior from others starts as small violations that build and get worse as time goes on, a ‘slippery slope’ that may start with allowing a boss or coworker to take up 5 or 10 minutes of your lunch hour and ends years later with hours of unpaid overtime that you have slowly been manipulated into giving, or a completely out-of-whack work/life balance that leaves you exhausted and miserable and unable to pursue your own happiness or interests outside of work.
If your new workplace has one narcissist, your early establishment of boundaries will keep that one away from you. If your new workplace is a toxic culture of narcissist soup, your firm boundaries will alert you to that fact and allow you to make a quick departure, hopefully without incurring too much damage.
You can always find new work, but you cannot take back days, months, or years given to a toxic system. It’s not easy to regain mental or physical health once a toxic situation has caused you harm. Better to move along as quickly as you can & take care of yourself and your own well-being. Money is easy to make, your time and health are priceless treasures to be guarded.
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