"Men Are Victims Too: Recognizing and Dealing With Abuse"

05-11-2015 at 02:28 PM (40 Views)

I thought this was an excellent article. I like the term "skilled victim" 

Narcissists and Borderline personalities, or the skilled victim as I call them, are those who have received the same type of wounding as the people pleasers

https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/men-are-victims-too-recognizing-and-dealing-with-abuse-wcz/

I went down this list, and my brother's wife has done EVERY SINGLE ONE of these things. Every.single.one.

1. Seduce him with all the sex he wants until he has committed; then remove sex.
2. Develop impromptu “sicknesses” just before their man leaves to clear his head, spend time with friends, go on a solo adventure, or business trip. The expert victim will then shame him for leaving them in such a condition.
3. Will verbally abuse him, castrate him with their words and challenge his manhood and self-care.
4. Become an expert within the first few weeks around what the man will want to hear.
5. Talk endlessly of wanting to be together for lifetimes, how they can’t wait for them to grow old together, and in the next instant they snap fangs at you for packing a box wrong.
6. Empty a man’s bank account on the promise of love then blame him for a poor budget.
7. Start fights with the man’s family members, friends, or other males, and if he doesn’t take their side, he will be stonewalled and questioned for his commitment. Sometimes, they will provoke another man to the point of fighting, and demand that you defend their honor. 
8. Initiate the cycle of abuse at night, keep him awake, 
9. When a man finally stands up for himself, and refuses to take any more punishment, the skilled victim may become desperate, attack the man, and then tell the world they’ve been abused.