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This is an interesting question. Of course most of our purposes are strongly influenced by our connections and affections with others. Our relationships with others, and our love for them, give us most of the meaning and purpose in our lives. So if a sociopath doesn't have these things, what is left? What kind of purposes do they have?
The answer is chilling: They want to win. Take away love and relationships and all you have left is winning the game, whatever the game is.
common everyday sociopaths
Honestly, this is all it's about for them. They don't know what happiness or success actually feel like. To be content, to feel joy, to feel connected to friends and family and loved ones. To end a day with a sense of having gone out and done something worthwhile. They don't have that, never can and never will. The closest thing a sociopath ever feels to "happy" is watching you cry (usually over some cruelty they committed against you). The closest thing a narcissist ever feels to "success" is in ensuring that you fail. There is no point in having pity or compassion for them, though they are pitiful creatures, to be sure. They wouldn't understand it, would probably reject it and/or see it as a sign of weakness and something to exploit in you, a new way to hurt you. So don't bother. Save your love and compassion for someone who gives a damn.
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I know it feels familiar and comfortable to love a person like this. The excitement of being around this person can be really wonderful. When you can save her. When you can make her enemies pay for offending her. When it's you and her against the whole damn world and you are invincible, a white knight on a grand stallion, bearing weapons of flame against anyone who would harm your Lady. You can't imagine the gray, boring, small life you'd have without her. You can't imagine anyone who can make you feel as good as she does, when you're The Good One. When she's not telling you that you're worthless crap who will never ever find anyone to love you, because you're so worthless and useless. You'll do anything to keep her happy. You'll do anything to make her love you again. You'll do anything to see her smile. And she is a drug that is eating you from the inside out.
5 Stages of Letting Go of a Relationship with an Emotionally Abusive Woman
Oh, that Bramblekite, she's an idiot. She's a jealous loser. She doesn't know what she's talking about. Nope, nope, of course not. Just keep telling yourself whatever you need to tell yourself so that you can get through another day with a vaguely human-shaped leech dragging you into the muck.
The answer is chilling: They want to win. Take away love and relationships and all you have left is winning the game, whatever the game is.
common everyday sociopaths
Honestly, this is all it's about for them. They don't know what happiness or success actually feel like. To be content, to feel joy, to feel connected to friends and family and loved ones. To end a day with a sense of having gone out and done something worthwhile. They don't have that, never can and never will. The closest thing a sociopath ever feels to "happy" is watching you cry (usually over some cruelty they committed against you). The closest thing a narcissist ever feels to "success" is in ensuring that you fail. There is no point in having pity or compassion for them, though they are pitiful creatures, to be sure. They wouldn't understand it, would probably reject it and/or see it as a sign of weakness and something to exploit in you, a new way to hurt you. So don't bother. Save your love and compassion for someone who gives a damn.
I know it feels familiar and comfortable to love a person like this. The excitement of being around this person can be really wonderful. When you can save her. When you can make her enemies pay for offending her. When it's you and her against the whole damn world and you are invincible, a white knight on a grand stallion, bearing weapons of flame against anyone who would harm your Lady. You can't imagine the gray, boring, small life you'd have without her. You can't imagine anyone who can make you feel as good as she does, when you're The Good One. When she's not telling you that you're worthless crap who will never ever find anyone to love you, because you're so worthless and useless. You'll do anything to keep her happy. You'll do anything to make her love you again. You'll do anything to see her smile. And she is a drug that is eating you from the inside out.
5 Stages of Letting Go of a Relationship with an Emotionally Abusive Woman
Oh, that Bramblekite, she's an idiot. She's a jealous loser. She doesn't know what she's talking about. Nope, nope, of course not. Just keep telling yourself whatever you need to tell yourself so that you can get through another day with a vaguely human-shaped leech dragging you into the muck.
